To the OP, I dont have problem with validation, but affirmations and words of expression are a different story. If I am pulled toward a person they tend to know. I guess I need/like/want independence in that area so I dont affirm or express it. I need a long leash in that department To not be trapped by feelings or to not use feelings to judge.
Validation is about the other person so I dont have a problem with validating the other person.