I asked if he were going to talk about it with his wife. He said, "Hell, no are you crazy?"
That was pretty much the end of the friendship. I couldn't make myself go do the next planned activity, and be around his wife and kids knowing. I didn't want to bring my girlfriend around anymore to visit with the family.
Thinking if your wife can't trust you...I can't trust you either.
If he'd chose to talk with her, or felt bad about it. I'd still had some low level feeling to work through. But I think the friendship would/could have survived.