A lot of it depends on how you take terms and that depends on your life experience. I haven't had a lot of experience with serious depression, clinical depression. I had a friend that was suicidal and tried a few times but that was a long time ago and I was pretty young. My response was basically to do a quick patch job and keep on going. He is still alive and credits me for some of that so I guess that works, at least some of the time.
When I use the phrase 'in the moment' I don't think of 'no thought for the future'. To me it simply means being present as opposed to being in your head.
With the more casual use of the word depressed, I think that SP can tend to be solution oriented. Maybe overly so, but that depends on your view. It can be frustrating to be presented with a unsolvable problem. And I think that maybe that is at the root of some people who get annoyed. They feel hamstrung.
I suppose that like most things, people are good for some things and not for others. So you really need to clarify what you want and if the person can't give you that find someone who can.