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[SP] SP dealbreakers and must haves

miss fortune

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since every other type seems to be making these, we might as well have one too... plus, then the SPs won't feel tempted to post their lists elsewhere *nudges foolish heart* :newwink:

what must a SO have and what can't they have? :huh:

btw, this thread is for guys and girls since we don't have the numbers to have seperate threads! :laugh:
 

miss fortune

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yeah... no sense of humor... and not liking me... and being fridgid :laugh:
 

ChocolateMoose123

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Must Haves:

Chemistry
Good sex
Honest
Trustworthy
Fun

Deal Breakers:

Game Playing
Talks too much
:thinking:

That's all I got right now...
 

sLiPpY

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Adding to MDP2525's list:

Deal Breakers:

EMO clingy :emot-emo:
Fails to give me peace out space :coffee:
Annoyingly Combative :girlfight:
 

miss fortune

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must haves

they must like me :holy:
sex
sense of humor
patience (necissary with me being me and such... :blush:)
a sense of prudence... you know, ask occasionally "is that really a good idea?" when I'm going to do something potentially disasterous :ninja:

hopefully

I don't know, but somewhat anal retentive men are hott :drool:...... :ninja:
remembers essential things like when the light bill is due
likes dogs

dealbreakers

abusive
can't laugh about things
plays games
cheats
won't accept help that's offered
 

man

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they have to be ART
shorter than me

thats about it
 

Randomnity

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dealbreakers:

asshole
unwilling to work, or clean up after yourself
life goals are too different

lots of stuff I don't prefer, but there's always exceptions to be made in those areas
 

ragashree

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SP requirements are so much cooler and more sensible than the requirements of other types. :static: Maybe I need an SP!
 

Walking Tourist

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deal breakers:
control freak
no sense of humor
arrogant
smoker
dangerous driver
liar

deal makers:
good sense of humor
adventurous
likes cats
 
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Jeffster

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since every other type seems to be making these, we might as well have one too... plus, then the SPs won't feel tempted to post their lists elsewhere *nudges foolish heart* :newwink:

I didn't read the other topics. There's so many boring topic titles.

what must a SO have and what can't they have? :huh:

SO? Space Opera? Sulking Orangutan? Skeptical Ocelot? Spinach Omelet?
 

Sunny Ghost

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must have/be:
sensuous in bed. brush my hair, caress my leg, etc.:wubbie:
care for animals. i have a LOT of cats.:blush:
be a soft kisser. nothing sloppy or too hard. :hug:
like to have fun! i'm a bit impulsive and i don't like restraints. :smile:
give me space when i need it. and not have to fight you for it either. i like guys that have their own interests that they want to busy their selves in, so i don't have to feel selfish when i want to be alone, and so that we'll each have interesting things to share with one another. i like a guy with some passion of his own. :)
must enjoy silence. talk is cheap, baby. i don't want to hear your dull stories 24/7. can't we both just go out to eat, me with my magazine, you with your book, and still know that there is love in the air. :blush:

deal breakers:
bad odors. i'm a bit of a hippie, myself... but i just cannot take foul odors. :shock:
guy's who put too much effort into their hair, clothes, etc. i like manly, men. natural looking men. :newwink:
someone with no morals or questionable morals and values.
someone who isn't open minded or tolerant of differences between people.
constant negativity.
 
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Dali

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Desirable:
~ Laughs at my jokes. :D
~ Sensual and is appreciative of my uber-sensual nature.
~ Kind-hearted.
~ Intelligent.
~ Respects my passions/obsessions. (e.g. They may hate opera but they may not continously hate on it)
~ Lets me be me (while grounding me at the same time)
~ Level-headed (One of us has to be)

Dealbreakers:
~ Control-freak
~ Judgmental
~ Subpar hygiene
~ Uber-rigid
~ Cannibal


*Once upon a time, I may have put "plays games" in the deal-breakers list but my INFJ, wonderful as they may be, has a tendency to do a bit of this. I've been tempted to walk away once or twice but we're deeply in love :blush: and I'm trying to partially accommodate this tendency while, at the same time, gently and gradually wean them of it. I think its part of the package, in a sense; I've yet to meet an INFJ that doesn't play games in the relationship department (at least in the beginning). I'm not saying they don't exist; I've just yet to meet them.
 

Halla74

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Y'all have these covered.

I agree with most everything my other SP compatriots have identified here.

Big ones for me include:

Must Be...
Fun
Good Sex, Often
You Trust Me, I Trust You
Must Have an Open Mind

MUST NOT BE...
Not Uptight
Not a Spendthrift

Don't Try to Tell Me What to Do...I Will Leave, I Play Fair, But Will Not Be Controlled

NO HEADGAMES

Don't Question Me...Just Kidding! :rofl1:
 
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Rainne

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Would Like:

-has a sense of wonder
-adventurous, likes to try new things and can keep up with me (physically)
-kind hearted

Dealbreakers:

-judgmental and narrow minded
-seeks to control, to influence
-cold and indifferent (which is somewhat hypocritical lol)
 

Heinel

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Deal Breakers -
Low self-esteem
Over-sensitive
Testy

Winning Attributes -
Chill
Humorous
Out-spoken
 

Willfrey

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Must Have:

Female parts
Maturity and independence (Can't live with parents -- I'm too old for that crap)
low-stress laid back

Deal Breaker:

Gossip
Love for shopping.
(this has directly to do with my last two grilfriends)
 
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