it would be a dealbreaker, but i kinda put that already. "responsible adults". hating sneakers seems sort of adult-like. ;D not to say i couldn't fall into some style that was more genteel.. i can do that too, but i wouldn't want to be something too definitive. its a little different from SJs (a lot of them like to make fun of what's not "normal", i think), but someone with too many ideals can be imposing in their own way too (not all, don't get me wrong).