Hello, I'm new to the forums, though I am a longtime lurker.
So, my question lies in the mental realm of the ever-mysterious S-type. I am as far from a Sensor as one can be without the diagnosis of autism or somesuch. So, as much of an INFP as I am, I tend to speak a lot of abstract nonsensical things and randomness that SF types completely disregard or interrupt if they can help it. I feel as though, with this particular ISFP, anything I say is some kind of subtext for the carefully observant, and she is there to provide the big bold title because that's what really matters at all anyway.
We've had a bit of a complicated relationship to begin with because a mutual "friend" of ours, who we both had dated - myself more recently and for a substantially lengthier amount of time - has put a lot of effort into distorting others' opinions of me since our break-up. That's a much longer story, but that particular ex of mine could spend 10 minutes alone in a room with our friends, I'd walk in, and the atmosphere would turn cold and I'd suffer the piercing onslaught of 8 icy pairs of eyes. She's more manipulative than Scientology, and JUST as untrue.
They happen to be BEST friends. However, the ISFP has remained friends with me, because I've never given her a reason to dislike me. I've gone out of my way to be a good friend to her. That probably isn't what my ex is saying behind my back, though ...
So, since our break up, the ISFP's behavior toward me has grown colder. She says that she wont form her opinion of me based on my ex's words, but I have my doubts. In social situations, she absolutely has to assert her dominance over me. She makes it clear that she is more capable than I am at everything. She'll bluntly be like, "... That doesn't make any sense" when I make a joke, frustrated obviously by my abstractness. She's very belittling ... And honestly, she must think I'm a total idiot if everything I say is so unimportant.
Yet she's definitely not this way toward anyone else as far as I've noticed. Anyone she deems as "cool" is a complete exception, and she'll quickly throw herself at any joke or idea they conceive, anything they like ... Whereas my taste in just about everything sucks, apparently.
Weirdly enough though, we've signed a lease on an apartment together. I know I can tolerate it since we're both going to be extremely busy, full-time work AND school, and I'll have my own room, and we ARE friends. I don't think she'd agree to be my roommate if she hated me, but the disrespect is just getting to be too much. I am excessively sweet but I don't have an extensive supply of this ... I absolutely wont tolerate a lack of respect like this from any friend, regardless of how little their sh*t does or does not stink.
I suppose what I'm asking is ... How to ISFP's treat people they don't like/respect? Is she maybe harboring secret resentment, or does she just plain think herself better than me?