Hey lovely SPs.
I was hoping that some advice could be offered on my ESFP sister. She is 19 and currently has a track record of bad decisions. Particularly she seems to choose people who will betray her as friends, and makes enemies easily.
As an xNFP her and I don't relate at all. I don't know why she does what she does or where she's coming from. She's also the youngest and I'm the oldest with 7 years between us. It doesn't make for a lot of relating.
However, being her big sister, I worry, and I want the best for her life.
I know that ESFPs can make good decisions because I've met ones that did.
I was just wondering is there something I can say, or perhaps a series of things, or maybe something that I can direct her to, that will let her see that making good decisions is better even if the bad ones are more fun in the moment?
I know that maybe making her own mistakes will eventually lead her to the right answer, but that's a really painful way to go about it and she's a slow life-learner, I'd like to try and spare her that if I can.