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    Senior Member paradox fox's Avatar
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    Default ISFP: I don't get it.

    An acquaintance of mine is an ISFP. He has a really bizarre sense of humor. Whenever he does a funny, nonsense tumbles out of his mouth. English words, but totally random, non-sequitur stuff. He has a penchant for making awkward moments even more awkward, to try to get you to laugh.

    He gives me this face a lot: O_o kind of a sidelong glance, a mix of "holy crap you're weird" and vague distrust, when I didn't even do anything weird. Unless me talking to him counts as being weird. Makes me feel totally uncomfortable and crappy when he gives me that look. But I guess that look is part of him being funny, because all the rest of his friends think it's funny when they get that look from him.

    It's not like he's unpopular. He's got tons of friends all over the place. And they all think he's funny. As for me, I can only laugh at his shtick when he and his brother (IxTP) are together. They make an amazing comedy team.

    I try to be friendly and nice to him, but I get the feeling like this guy just really does not like me at all. Had that feeling since we met 5 years ago. It's a really nasty feeling. And I've tried asking him why he doesn't like me or what I did, and he says there's nothing wrong. I feel like there's a username and password I have to login to in order to understand this guy, and everyone but me got the login instructions. I don't think he's intentionally being a jerk, but I just don't get it.

    He's the only confirmed ISFP I know, and he's left kind of a bad taste in my mouth. I don't want to judge a whole group of people based on my experience with one individual, so.... I don't know.

    Does any of that sound familiar?
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    Please say no
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    I really don't think I can relate to the OP. I'm not really sure what it is though that you want to know either.

    Though, maybe this guy just feels awkward around you? So that's why he acts that way? I'm really not sure.
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    I guess what I'm asking is if you find yourself acting like my friend.
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    Sometimes. I certainly say plenty of nonsense, and give people looks. I'm not sure what's bizarre about that. But if he says there's nothing wrong, then he probably means it. You're likely reading too much into him just goofing around. If he gets laughs from giving people "the look" then that's why he continues it. If you don't react the same way others do, he may see it as a challenge to try to crack you up too.

    All of that is speculation cuz I dunno the dude, but it's at least semi-educated speculation.

    But re-reading your description, I don't really see what the guy does that makes you have a "nasty feeling." Why would you have such strong feelings based on him saying nonsense and looking at you weird?
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    umm.. how old is he?

    i definitely don't think i'm like this now, but i used to do weird stuff when i was.... 12? even to strangers. sometimes me and a friend would walk around malls, and we'd dare each other to just walk up to someone and point with a crazy expression on our faces.. and then run away.

    they probably got that "nasty feeling" too, i bet

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    OP- Maybe I behave this way? If it were the case, it would probably be if I am with someone who I like and I am unsure as to how they feel about me and I'm nervous and excited, or maybe because being around them makes me happy and so I kind of light up.

    Or possibly it's because he knows you think he doesn't like you so it makes him act a little weirder. (Again the uncomfortable thing combined with the desire to diffuse any tension. I don't know about ISFPs in general but I like to be liked. If I'm feeling self-conscious and wanting to please, I can get odd.) Dunno.

    My question is... why do you hang out with him if he makes you feel like crap? Me no understand... (kind of what you're saying and why you're saying, I guess)

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    My ISFP step-dad likes to say weird, nonsensical stuff to get a reaction out of people, but it's usually harmless. If he doesn't joke with you like that & just makes a stream of rude, sarcastic jabs (many of which also do not make sense...I guess they do to him), then that means he does not like you (in that moment at least). That's pretty much how he treats me lately, because he's an ass & we're not getting along.
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    Hmm.. to be a little more serious, it's really hard to say. I don't think I piss off many people these days or make them uncomfortable to begin with. If I detect they're introverted (even more than me), I'm polite. And as far as jokes go, I consider myself more of a laugher than a joker (12 yr old antics aside). About the only people I don't get along with are like.. drunk marine types or something. But I don't say anything to them. That's more like controlled tension.

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    Yeah OA and KD make good points. I can be seriously jerky sometimes with those I get bad feelings from. But it is extremely rare, and it generally involves copious amounts of alcohol.

    Typically if I don't like someone I just don't talk to them, aside from the one-sentence social niceties.

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