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    Default Am I overreacting to an ESFP?

    I am ISFJ (girl) and a friend of mine at work is an ESFP (guy). Lately this ESFP friend seem withdrawn and annoyed with me. I have been trying to understand why this is so. I might have said something to offend him, but when I try to recall and analyze our recent conversations, he was the one who was semi-snappish.

    So this ESFP guys is very well liked at work, has tons of friends including females, very flirty etc. I really enjoy his company, but now I get the sense that he doesn't want to hang out anymore.

    Anyway I am just wondering if an apology would make things better, or should I just try to avoid him (like my usual conflict resolution approach)?

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    just ask him why he's being such a little bitch?

    it works well for me to ask that anyways
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    Give it some time and see how he acts overall. You don't know he is upset with you, just pay attention and see what happens.

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    From my experience from fighting with ESFP's, just get away. If they are truly upset with you, usually the main goal is to get to your feelings. Don't let them.
    But that was only with females...I don't know if it's the same with guys.

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    I'm with tawanda on this. Cranky chick ESFPs are bitches. From my experience with a female ESFP, let her cool down and if you give a shit, ask her wtf you did.

    I'd just stay away. They're brats and drama whores. (Can you tell I just LOVE ESFPs? :rolli: )
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    It's a guy esfp whose being cranky and annoying. Maybe he ate something that didn't agree with him and he's taking it out on the world. Just ignore him for a while and don't let his attitude get to you. His behavior reflects on HIM, not on YOU. Don't let him make you believe that you are responsible for his feelings. The only one who is responsible for his feelings is him. He needs to get over himself and start acting human...

    Quote Originally Posted by mcmartinez84 View Post
    I'm with tawanda on this. Cranky chick ESFPs are bitches. From my experience with a female ESFP, let her cool down and if you give a shit, ask her wtf you did.

    I'd just stay away. They're brats and drama whores. (Can you tell I just LOVE ESFPs? :rolli: )
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    Quote Originally Posted by mcmartinez84 View Post
    I'm with tawanda on this. Cranky chick ESFPs are bitches. From my experience with a female ESFP, let her cool down and if you give a shit, ask her wtf you did.

    I'd just stay away. They're brats and drama whores. (Can you tell I just LOVE ESFPs? :rolli: )
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    I had a similar situation with a casual esfp female freind. I just gave up on trying to reconcile with her after about three weeks of trying to figure out what I did wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    It's a guy esfp whose being cranky and annoying. Maybe he ate something that didn't agree with him and he's taking it out on the world. Just ignore him for a while and don't let his attitude get to you.
    Yeah. I agree with this. ESFPs I know are like mirrors. They just are how they feel. It's usually nothing more.

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    Yea, get away, quick! He probably just needs space. When I have a problem with an ISFJ, it's usually because they said something that sounded really critical and nitpicky to me. Not sure if that's the case here, but just a thought. You may have said something that he took wrong and possibly blew out of proportion. After some space he'll probably forget about it. If not, maybe just ask him what's wrong and try to talk it through.
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