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    Senior Member Bamboo's Avatar
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    Default 21 year old dating 18 year old?

    I have some reservations about this one: I'm 21, taking time off from college. I've met an 18 year old girl...who is still in high school (senior). About to graduate.

    This one is a gray zone for me. In high school I always was involved with girls at least a year older than me, except for once (my age). As it is now, it seems I'm generally attracted to girls who are in the 21-25 age bracket. But, it appears that random fate has put this 18 year old sweetheart (actually, two of them...) in the picture. Along with 3 other girls (unrelated to the others, varying ages...20-23) that popped out of nowhere in the last 5 days. Thanks, luck!

    Anyway, I feel almost predatory having an interest in these two girls. If they were a year younger - out of the question. If I was 22...probably out of the question. But it's right on the line. I asked an older (40s) guy I trust about what he thought about it and he said the same thing - it's on the line.

    Cons:
    - when I was 18 my head was full of garbage. slightly less so now .
    - i might be pursued simply because i have the older guy mystique.
    - i might smash one of these girls young hearts into a thousand little pieces.
    - i might have to deal with psycho parents

    Pros:
    - everybody matures differently
    - girls mature faster than guys
    - it's not illegal
    - i don't think it's all that uncommon (these last two are pretty weak)
    - i might actually like them, who cares what age they are

    One girl has a wild-child personality and has dated guys my age (or so) before. But overall very sweet.

    The other is the type who wants to reinvent herself in college. Not a party girl, or at least doesn't seem like one. Outgoing though.

    Both initiated with me. Both have merits.

    Any thoughts? Should I stray away? How is this perceived in general?
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    Uhhh... The age gap is a bit much. Just be friends with the 18 year old for about 2 years.
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    Um...make sure she's really 18...lol...I'm serious.

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    Oh, to be 21 again! Go for it, dude. Trust me! You don't have to marry her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little_Sticks View Post
    Um...make sure she's really 18...lol...I'm serious.
    Oh you know I'm triple checking that one^.

    The very fact that I have to do so doesn't make me feel less predatory.

    Quote Originally Posted by ObeyBunny View Post
    Uhhh... The age gap is a bit much. Just be friends with the 18 year old for about 2 years.
    Ah, the back burner. 23 and 20. I could dig this.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    This is a joke, right?
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    No joke...?

    My natural instinct is just pick the two I like best and go from there. I mean I have a feeling I'm ruling out one girl due to being (apparently) very Catholic - investigation is needed into that situation. One girl I like but I thought had a boyfriend but is apparently single now. And her older sister likes me (not like that) so would 'approve me' for her, can't hurt. One girl I know little about but have flirted with at the store she works and she gives me a single vibe and seems good natured.

    That leaves these two girls (18). Both have merits as discussed. I'll evaluate them like all the others but the age thing puts me on edge, so they'll have to exhibit unusual maturity or I'm just gonna be weirded out.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    nothing illegal, so it's really up to your judgment whether or not they will be good options for you.

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    Moved from Bonfire.

    Regarding the topic: I don't see the problem.
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    lol make sure she's really 18 first

    if that checks out

    it's worth trying

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