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    Default help with ISTP guy

    Ok, other threads I post have NOT been so serious, they were just for laugh but this one is serious.

    I am ISTP and there is this girl (dunno what type)!!! I accidentally invited her backpacking and made out with her. Now she keeps talking to me, and giving me her phone number in case I want to invite to something else???

    I dunno I haven't given dating her much thought until now though I suppose she's been into me for months, I dunno if I want commitment, but maybe it wouldn't be too bad??????????????

    ty, love man
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    mk...I say relax and enjoy the ride! Just don't feed her, or let her know where you live.

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    You need to determine whether she's an ENFJ before you make any decisions.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    You need to determine whether she's an ENFJ before you make any decisions.
    hahahaha. I like your sense of humor :-)

    Even if she's not an ENFJ, I'd advise you to try your best to be consistent in your intentions, and making that clear at all times. You can't help it if she misreads your signals and falls head over heels for you, but at least you can avoid that by not doing anything suggestive before you make up your mind. THAT INCLUDES ANYTHING PHYSICAL (even body touches).

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    Quote Originally Posted by man View Post
    Ok, other threads I post have NOT been so serious, they were just for laugh but this one is serious.

    I am ISTP and there is this girl (dunno what type)!!! I accidentally invited her backpacking and made out with her. Now she keeps talking to me, and giving me her phone number in case I want to invite to something else???

    I dunno I haven't given dating her much thought until now though I suppose she's been into me for months, I dunno if I want commitment, but maybe it wouldn't be too bad??????????????

    ty, love man

    Well hell brother, do you like the girl?


    Important, btw!

    Would you mind being around her on a regular basis? Is she basically a good fit? Is she basically free of massive deal breakers?



    Sooner or later, I'm going to meet a single (ha!) girl I actually like.

    My general plan of action, at that point, would be to be:

    1. figure out my limitations

    relationships are work, so how much energy do I have to invest in one, based on my current lifestyle? As much as I love juggling a bunch of crap I can't handle at once...do I really want to get into some relationship that I have no time to spend on and will end with boredom?

    2. figure out, at least to some extent, wtf she want's out of this

    how much maintenance does she require? something I could get used to?



    then, after I figure that all out, step 3 is:

    3. Make a shit-ton of mistakes

    this part will be awkward.


    Following this will be step 4...

    4. Start over from beginning with new girl OR carry on with the struggle of a relationship but enjoy the good stuff.

    If cost/benefit ratio gets to high than bail out, but I'll keep in mind that my initial costs will be huge due to inexperience but costs will go down as I get better at dealing with things.


    That's the best outline I can give you - it's what I would do. But step zero, if you will...do you really like this girl?


    Also, is she pursuing you with stalker-like intensity or is she just being persistent? Stay away from the crazy ones.





    Take it all ^ with 50 pound block of salt, I don't know anything about dating.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    Oh, and the general principles of honesty, patience, being upfront, and not just toying with her to get laid apply.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    Ok, other threads I post have NOT been so serious, they were just for laugh but this one is serious.
    we still laughed at you.

    me: I "accidentally" invited her backpacking
    me: HAHAHA
    jock: my favorite was we accidentally made out
    jock: While backpacking
    me: yes.
    me: her face ran into mine
    jock: like they both tripped down a hill and ran into each others faces for like 20 minutes
    me: and suddenly there was all this involuntary groping
    me: HAHA
    jock: lol
    me: so funny

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    istps are funny. "Accidentally invited her backpacking and made out with her"

    lol.
    "If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see."
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    Wait, would you like to come over and do some backpa..OH SHIT!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by man View Post
    I accidentally invited her backpacking and made out with her.
    Oops. Happens all of the time. It's one of the most common reasons backpackers request search and rescue evacuations. At least you didn't do something ridiculously difficult to do accidentally, like sprain an ankle or forget a critical piece of gear.

    It's ok though. Everyone makes mistakes when they're first learning to backpack.
    Embarrassing accidents like these will gradually diminish as you gain more experience, so hang in there!

    Happy hiking!

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