Ummm, admittedly, when he and I first met, I was dealing with a lot of issues, I was amidst a thick existential depression, I was all heart, had a bleeding heart, a soul, a fire, a rage, a passion, he helped me temper my emotions, but then he also stifled, resented, and invalidated them. :/
He's gotten better at being more encouraging and affirming, over the years.
But he becomes hostile whenever I express some sort of dissatisfaction with our relationship, very hostile, very very hostile and hurtful,
and during these times, I find myself feeling sorry for him while simultaneously hating him and pitying him. :/