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    Quote Originally Posted by Craft View Post
    Lolz. But seriously, you don't think ISTP's are that non-reactive? I could see a joker + audience relationship.


    Heh. They're both SPs so at least they can probably find a lot of the same things fun...? Give or take some individual differences, of course. Conversations could go weird though. The ESFPs have a more elaborate conversation style. Might worry an ESFP after awhile if ISTP was mostly quiet. They dont need to know anyone's soul, just like to engage in conversation.. they talk about matter-of-fact/practical stuff just like all SPs.. but if ISTP was quiet a lot, it'd end. ESFP's need to engage and be engaged with people.. not indirectness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainne View Post
    well, hate to say it but perhaps he's bored of you

    anyhow, i think the ISFP - ISTP relationship works best. Here's a typical day w/ my gf

    setting: my apartment

    her: 'what are you up to'
    me: 'nothing, browsing some stuff'
    her: 'ok'

    *sounds of keyboard typing and pencil scratching are heard*

    me: 'nice drawing'
    her: 'thnx, i started yesterday'
    her: 'do you like it?'
    me: 'yeah it looks great'
    her: =)

    *a long silence ensues as we resume our respective activities*

    an hour passes

    me: 'hey are you hungry'
    her: 'hmm not really...'
    me: 'ok'
    her: 'why, are you hungry?'
    me: 'yeah'
    her: 'but i'm so close to finishing!'
    me: 'it's ok i can wait'
    her: 'no...if you're really hungry...'
    me; it's ok i can wait'
    me: 'okay'

    15 minutes pass

    her: 'done!'
    me: 'looks good, let's go'

    you cannot ask for a better relationship
    Sometimes for me and my ISTP husband, just being in the same room (doing our own thing) is enough. No conversation is needed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeejeek View Post
    He always seems to refuse my offer of hanging out when I want to even if I take care to suggest times when I know that he's free, then suggests another time. Why is that? Does he feel like I'm pressuring him or something?
    I'm with Rainne. He's probably bored...has no idea what you would do or talk about if you were in the same room by yourselves. He might also just be lazy and not want to get ready to see you and so he postpones.

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    When we are together we really do have a lot of fun together, just talking, joking around etc. Anyway if I do see him again I'll keep you guys updated, but as it is right now I'm neither hoping or obsessing over him anymore, due in large part I was able to talk about it with you guys! Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainne View Post
    Cause we're awesome and when we perform or fix things, you'd be like "wow, you're really good, nice job" and we'd shrug and be like "meh".
    hahah yeah thats me 110%

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    After reading this thread, ISTP's don't seem very attractive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    After reading this thread, ISTP's don't seem very attractive.
    Sounds a bit boring.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JTG1984 View Post
    Sounds a bit boring.
    Argh! You're right. *Must learn to play the game*
    I need coaching.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JTG1984 View Post
    Sounds a bit boring.
    I actually have been thinking about that lately. Like, sometimes the ISTPs I know make me feel 'boring'... because if we aren't distracted, or relaxing... there really is no connection, and I can't make it appear. I have no control over it. I'm just a source of comfort or a spark that adds to fun that's already there. It can be really frustrating because it makes the ISTP the same to me. Not boring so much as 'boring's nameless ugly cousin', its as if the life of the relationship is fueled by what happens around us, but not by us ourselves. It is somewhat unsettling, but I'm getting used to it. I look to other people to 'experience', because the ISTP just doesn't want to be felt directly as an experience or experience you as a person directly. It just doesn't work that way.
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    uh, nothing to see here folks...err, move along!


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