Yesterday, the ISTP was angry about something. He initiated conversation, saying that "he remembered why he hates people." From an ENFJ perspective, that is a depressing statement. He's rarely ever angry so I was particularly curious as to what could have pissed him off. I didn't try to force it out of him so I simply recognized that he was angry and expected him to talk about it if it wasn't really bothering him. Should I have directly asked him to talk about it? I'm not sure if he told me because he was amazingly good at tabling his anger and joking around. I feel like my conversations with him are becoming fake and shallow because I'm trying so hard not to give any hints about my true feelings. I even said that I was never planning on getting married, something that it completely outrageous, because I was worried that talking about my view on marriage would somehow reveal how I feel about him.
There's another ENFJ in my life. He's older than me, but he's more needy than I am. I wake up to texts saying that he misses me when we haven't even started dating. I dislike this aspect of him, but I'm horrible at saying no. I enjoy talking to the ENFJ but I don't see a future with him. Then again, I second guess my doubts because it may be because I'm still caught up with the ISTP. Every time I take a step forward, I glance back to see if the ISTP is holding out his hand for me. How poetic, I know.
To toast, and any other NFs in general, when you're trying to get over someone else, do you start looking else where? Or do you take your time and enjoy the single life until you're completely over that other person?