This describes her very well. She seems afraid of deep connections, and only has them with old, long-time friends and family (her family and small community mean the world to her). Her cousin tells me she is a "very, very private person" and doesn't feel comfortable opening up to people she doesn't know well.
You're ISFP. Do you think she was lying?
AyoitStepho's comment about not writing but calling because it leaves her room to procastinate and forget sounds like her too. I think she might be very forgetful. She told me that the papers pile up on her desk and she has to keep lists.
Before I left last october, I went to her to say goodbye and be civil, even if I was crushed. She was smiling all over the place at me and asked me if I had had a good time. I said no and she looked absolutely puzzled. I asked her: "Can we keep in touch?" And she said: "Sure!" Then I stared deep and asked if she would answer, pointing out that she hadn't answered past letters. Her cousin exclaimed: "B**** (her name)!!!" with a "You're impossible" kind of tone. And she answered: "Oh, I'm so bad!"
About appreciation, my paintings were mentioned in a conversation, and she said to her cousin: "Did you see the one she did of me, the one I'm showing everyone at home? I've got to show you." I guess that means she liked it.
Thanks for all this, Hirsch, really.