okay, so I work with an older ESTP man and am as close to friends as an ENFP will be able to get to an ESTP given the massive diffs.
I noticed trends due to out tert Fe/Te differences.
1. He never says mean things to people he cares for.
I actually will playfully insult locker room style those I care for. If I insult you and pick on you, I really like you.
2. When under stress he becomes calm
When I am under stress I become agitated.
3. When angry, frustrated or irritated he will withdraw
When I am angry, frustrated or irritated I will be very direct and even confrontational.
4. So my observation: When I am hurt I will withdraw.
Does he mistake this for his angry, frustrated withdraw in point 3? Thus he thinks I am mad when I am really hurt?
Also what would the ESTP response to being hurt be? Would you be direct about your hurt feelings?