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    Default ESFP females and men with anxiety

    Ive read a couple of times that ESFPs dont like anxiety at all. So woul it be a bad idea to tell an ESFP female that Im nervous around her even though I like her?

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    Bad idea. Focus on the good and forget about being nervous, you won't get over it by drawing attention to it. Try some meditation or something to relax you before you see her or do something to release endorphins.

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    I don't think it would be bad. If your nervous because you like her, then thats awsome!
    I don't think being nervous would chase her away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HomerSoprano View Post
    Ive read a couple of times that ESFPs dont like anxiety at all. So woul it be a bad idea to tell an ESFP female that Im nervous around her even though I like her?
    I don't know, I think that applies to their own anxiety, not other's.
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    The question is, will it do you any good pointing out you get nervous around her? What are you hoping to achieve by telling her that? While she may think it's sweet she will come to the conclusion that you are not hook up material.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TickTock View Post
    The question is, will it do you any good pointing out you get nervous around her? What are you hoping to achieve by telling her that? While she may think it's sweet she will come to the conclusion that you are not hook up material.
    Maybe, but depending on how he's been acting, it might clear up a lot of misconceptions. I know people are confusing when their nervous. Maybe telling her that he's nervous will explain a lot.. It depends on the situation.
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    Too vague a question to give a helpful response.

    Why are you nervous? What are you nervous about? What do you expect to achieve by telling her this?

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    Confidence is one of the most attractive traits in females and males.

    Telling her you're anxious will only make her feel uncomfortable. I take it you would do this to gain her reassurances? Which is understandable. Skip the anxious part and just tell her you like her
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    Quote Originally Posted by McRumi View Post
    Too vague a question to give a helpful response.

    Why are you nervous? What are you nervous about? What do you expect to achieve by telling her this?
    Im nervous because shes superhot and flirtatious. And shes communicating in a way that is very direct and thats something that Im far from used to. Since Im an INTP I have a hard time expressing my feelings and telling her that Im nervous is easier than telling her I like her and in my book not exactly the same thing. And Im very often nervous around girls so telling her that is one step further to telling her I like her.

    And by telling her this my intentions is to make her understand Im intrested in her and want to get know her a little bit better and that I might come across as too distant if I dont because she was surprised the first time I flirted with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    Maybe, but depending on how he's been acting, it might clear up a lot of misconceptions. I know people are confusing when their nervous. Maybe telling her that he's nervous will explain a lot.. It depends on the situation.
    I agree with this. ESFPs don't like anxiety in themselves, I'm not sure "I'm nervous cause you are so hot" is bad, you aren't giving THEM anxiety.

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