My fiance and her dad have inherited the fortune of the late mother of the family. This ESTP, although generous, haven't perhaps spent a thought on how the inheritance should lawfully be conducted, and what can and what can be forced to happen under law. He's trying his limits. He's suggesting my fiance to leave the whole inhered fortune to him, etc.
He already lost one fight in the inheritance of another person, when he never wanted to open a book about law to see what's really his. He lost part of his inheritance and had to pay the legal fees, as well.
Now we're trying to understand the situation and to stay in good terms with him, if possible. I believe there's a way to crush him, if needed, but as he's kind of gregarious and fun, I'd rather just do the minimum thing possible to keep him at his proper place.
Here comes personality and typology. I'm trying to understand the mindset.
-He has an incoherent view of what part of the money is his.
-gets excited of a seemingly good chance for a quick euro
-Has happily asked my fiance to let go of his part to inheritance
-Was surprised and a bit offended to learn that he was legally obliged to co-operate
-More exactly, it was demeaning to him to have to gain his daughter's permission for some use of the co-owned money
-the daughter co-operated, and the co-operation has been good
-gives the feeling that he's trying to push his limits, he attempts some things carefully, ready to back off if it doesn't seem promising
-emotionally, hastily expresses that it's "his money". As said, that's an easily contested POV.
-he is in the situation to delay the process a bit.
-is in possession of a cheque directed to a co-owned legal entity. He can't use it to withdraw any money without the consent of the both parties.
-The ownership of the money is clear, and there are several eyewitnesses to his possession of the cheque.
-it seems easy to establish criminal liability from losses caused by anything but full co-operation.
-seemingly jovial, happy, easy-going, good-humored, gregarious, gives gifts.
-I've helped him with legal & financial advice about apartment sale, inheritage and other things
-He's agreed to my advice and found them helpful.
He's a very nice man, if incompetent with law and money, and we're evaluating how to let him go of his schemes the way he saves his face. We could throw a lawyer at him, and he would probably just pay everything.
He's probably good with little tricks, like the thing how he got hands of the cheque in the first place. I think it's because it was there-and-then, part we don't concentrate that much on. There's all these legal safeguards anyway.
So, we've thought of few things to do
-giving a hint, i.e. how I've handled some issues with the money and won
-asking nicely if it would be the best to obey the law
-asking why he's convinced all the money "is his"
-asking why he tries to get money that is so easily proven not to own
-reminding of the criminal liability for any losses caused by his actions
-listening and letting him express his views, then putting in some quiet strength and calmness
He already appreciates my legal & financial understanding, so none of that has to be proven.
Sorry for the long post, there's just quite much with this. Many angles to this. Opinions?