Originally Posted by Winged
In a nutshell:
Of course she should dismiss unhealthy feelings and NOT
express them. What's the benefit??
...she needs to suck it up!
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but the OP has not suggested that there are any 'real' issues other than the insecurities that she entertains in her own mind and her subsequent need for constant verbal reassurance from her ISTP. Actions speak louder than words, but yet she's reaching out for words to reassure her. It's as if she's disregarding his actions completely; she doesn't mention them in her OP. Let's be realistic here, would words really be enough to satisfy someone who has some deep rooted emotional, insecurity issues? ..No!
In addition to my advice posted earlier, I want to add that in order for the OP to relax and be confident in a loving relationship with anyone, she must first learn to love herself first.
If I'm way off base with this, please provide me more facts about the ISTP's 'actions' that would justify the need for reassurance. ...and YES, 'feelers' can make fact-based
decisions, rather than emotional-based
decisions, when we want to and try
As I said before, there are plenty of cuties in the sea and to the OP: if you don't have deep rooted insecurity issues, why force a square peg in a round hole and try to force morph a personality type to be something you want it to be, but it's inherently not. Man it sounds complicated!
Originally Posted by sLiPpY