I have encountered a problem with an ESTP woman who I thought I was close friends with.
I liked a man very much last spring. Total puppy love crush. He is quite crazy and hit on me all the time so I thought he liked me back. He can be very emotive and confusing, since he has no idea what he feels most of the time anyways.
I would talk to this ESTP, share my thoughts, my feelings, my confusion about this what this man wanted from me. It was very strange as in the past she had implied they were close which prompted me to ask on several different occasions if they were sleeping together. (She sleeps with lots of people who are in relationships with others-no judgment, just her style)
She always said no, they were just friends. I explained I was avoiding him, as although I care much for him, he was unhealthy for me to spend too much time around. When I say avoid-I mean I talk to him less than once a month, always about business.
So after several months:
I realized that yes, they were hooking up. I am the only dumb ass he didnt know this it turns out.-Honestly this doesnt bother me.
I realized she had lied to me-this didnt bother me either honestly. She lies a lot.
What bothers me is that in the last few months-without ever admitting she has lied, without admitting she is sleeping with him, she started "bragging" for lack of better word.
"look S texted me..."
"Look S called me..."
"I went out with S in LA and partied like crazy.."
"S and I sat on a beach by the ocean looking at the stars..."
Anytime I talked to the guy one-on-one for work related stuff, she would interrupt and seek attention, or even slap him on the ass or other weird stuff. I just ignored all of this. I ignore him and only interact as needed to be polite or productive.
Then it was like she cranked it up a bit-she started hanging on the guy when we would be anywhere as a group-and watch me to see if I noticed. He seems uncomfortable. I just dont look at them.
The finale was my birthday in which they invited me out-as an outlook invite to our whole department, she hung all over him throughout the first round of beers and then they ditched me, instead of meeting me downtown as planned for the party-which they invited me to.
My entp friend says that the estp is very competitive and that she is trying to show me she has "won". Is this true?
(Just fyi, an enfp will let you win if it makes you happy. We thrive off others happiness and are not competitive. However if you keep pushing it, I dont ever really compete as in a cute little one-up game...Te makes me destroy instead.)