I agree with you on all points. However, love triangles are messy no matter what, and usually highly circumstantial. I unwillingly got caught in one in the past, discovering suddenly that I was the "other woman." I was wrapped in knots trying to rationalize what to do. Rationalize feelings...ha. SO, in the interest of personal growth, here were my candid conflicts: He's cheating, therefore doesn't have my respect and obviously isn't worth dating....sooo I either A) continue a casual relationship because it's all f***ed anyway, or B) break it off on behalf of righteousness.
Disclaimer: I would NEVER consciously seek out this type of situation. It's foolish and impractical and there's plenty of other fish to catch.
However, once I found myself there, the selfish(competitive?) tendencies that emerged were pretty resolute. When the chemistry is right, man it's hard to deny those SP impulses. The damage was done, so I emotionally detached in the interest of self-preservation, but kept seeing him until karma bit him in the ass. Well...I may have had a hand in tipping off karma ... That was a good day.
A healthy person does not deliberately stab someone in the back. I am fiercely loyal to my friends and I am more likely to use my charm to instigate a spark between the two. I win in their success, very gratifying. I hesitate to generalize, but ESTP style is tactful bluntness, grounded in common sense. Friend drama over a guy is a huge waste of energy, it's not worth it. Deliberately inflicting anxiety on myself is nothing short of absurd. When I am after someone my intentions are on the table, I'm obvious and my friends know what I'm up to. I expect, if not assume the same. In any relationship it is your responsibility to communicate, you lose if you aren't clear. Eh, I don't know why there's such a tendency to think we're all hookers but I guess you could correlate being impulsive coupled with a certain disconnect between love and intimacy...thoughts anyone?
Specifically relating to this thread, was it even confirmed that the ESTP hooked up with him? Details seem fuzzy. Either way, in a situation like that, where the game lay in the thrill of the chase for all parties involved, it's hardly an issue of right and wrong. Now if the guy was single, and HappyPuppy was genuinely interested in a relationship and vocalized that to the ESTP, the story would be a lot different.