not going to go into this in depth cause it's still raw, but uh, now my question to the istps is... what do i do? what's my next move?
it's difficult because i know he likes me. i know he wants to keep seeing me. nothing about his actions say he doesn't. he just takes longer to know how he feels. and, maybe i do too... usually. i know, it's been only like less than three months. how can you know in that time? well, i just do. i really do.
to tell the truth, it's not like i even really thought he was going to say it back. which is why i burst into tears after i said it and nothing happened.
istp felt bad, i think. he went on this long comforting speech of how of course he liked me, but he would never ever want to hurt me and that something is probably inherently wrong with him (it's not -- i'm crazy) and how he didn't tell his ex that he loved her until like a year later (exjaculation!)... all stuff i already knew. unfortunately, this knowledge is not really going to make me feel better at this point and certainly not a pity i-love-you, which i hope to god he never would do to me. he said the last time a girl said she loved him (not the ex), he said "thank you." i've totally done that too. but, i have to say, it doesn't make me feel too great to be compared with that girl.
anyway, i do feel like i'm constantly trying to be careful not to pressure him into anything. i don't like pressure myself and that certainly was not my intent by being vocal with how i felt.
at the same time, istps, how long do i give him to reciprocate? to tell the truth, i think it's unhealthy for me to stay in a relationship with someone who can't tell me how they feel about me eventually. i'm happy to be with him and i've accepted how he is, but i don't like feeling like it's one-sided. and THAT, i can only take for so long before it will wear on me.
ugh. what do you all think? i know my istp bff would say, "oops. nothing you can do about that now." but, is there any other words of advice you can give me for moving forward?