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    Quote Originally Posted by Heinel View Post
    I wholly agree with this.

    I mean, didn't people always say those perfect couples can understand each other without exchanging words? Why get hung up on four letters when there are so many other ways to express love.
    Of course there are many ways to express love. Some people need a verbal expression rather than one of action.

    To the OP: There is a book, I believe, called 'Love Languages' that might be worth looking into.

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    It really depends: if his actions are saying that he cares, and you feel content in the relationship outside of "saying those words" and can live without it, then I say stay in the relationship.

    However if you feel like your emotional needs aren't being met and you constantly have to stifle who you are or feel "crazy" around your ISTP, then yeah I would say this relationship is unhealthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by phoenity View Post
    If that's not proof he sincerely cares about you, I don't know what is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    feel "crazy" around your ISTP, then yeah I would say this relationship is unhealthy.
    Non-sense. If you don't feel crazy, then you obviously don't care enough.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Heinel View Post
    Non-sense. If you don't feel crazy, then you obviously don't care enough.
    I mean "crazy" in a negative sense. Not "crazy in love" as you seem to be implying, but crazy like he's making her feel as though he's saner or more sensible than she is, causing her to feel bad about herself in an unecessary way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    I mean "crazy" in a negative sense. Not "crazy in love" as you seem to be implying, but crazy like he's making her feel as though he's saner or more sensible than she is, causing her to feel bad about herself in an unecessary way.
    I don't think craziness can inherently be positive or negative. All it shows is a conflict. The way you approach this conflict is what gives it a "good" tag or a "bad" tag.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Heinel View Post
    I don't think craziness can inherently be positive or negative. All it shows is a conflict. The way you approach this conflict is what gives it a "good" tag or a "bad" tag.
    If he's making her feel bad about herself, that's not healthy. That's my point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    If he's making her feel bad about herself, that's not healthy. That's my point.
    It's only bad when you continue to dwell on it and let it consume you. And that does not necessarily have to be the case.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    yeah, it's a shame he's so gosh darn amazing or i'd cut him loose.

    i think i'm just going to sit on it and not do anything. maybe it'll go away on its own cause i can trick myself into thinking it's unrequited.
    How did you trick yourself? What makes you think its unrequited other then he wont say.
    Im out, its been fun

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    Quote Originally Posted by Heinel View Post
    It's only bad when you continue to dwell on it and let it consume you. And that does not necessarily have to be the case.
    oh what ever. if someone makes you feel bad about yourself on a regular basis, that isn't a good partner or significant other.

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