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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    the peanut butter frosting is

    2 c powdered sugar
    1/2 c butter
    1 c peanut butter
    1 tsp vanilla

    it is delicious
    OMG!!!! That sounds amazingly delicious!!!!

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    I'm thinking of giving in and making both, so that half will be chocolate and the other half peanut butter

    is it possible to do that with the chips as well?
    Absolutely! Excess is what this country great!
    Just back off on the amount of each. If you use 2 cups of chips when the recipe calls for 1 you will get goop.

    I use ~1.5 if the recipe calls for 1 cup.
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    the icing turned out delicious and I spent the next half hour making sure it was all properly licked off of my fingers

    I use the 1.5 ratio when making brownies as a rule! it's a good way to get extra butterscotch chips AND extra milk chocolate chunks

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    the icing turned out delicious and I spent the next half hour making sure it was all properly licked off of my fingers

    I use the 1.5 ratio when making brownies as a rule! it's a good way to get extra butterscotch chips AND extra milk chocolate chunks

    people who are on strict diets hate me

    It must be tough being you!

    That icing sounds good. *scribbles notes*

    If I was a practicing Roman Catholic, I'd give up gluttony in regards to food and eating healthy by making better choices.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    You were right to tell him upfront upon his return.

    He was rude in how he responded to you, as he was the pot calling the kettle black.

    He believes in double standards, in dissonace, do as I say not as ido. Control freak 101.

    Totally. And I won't bore you with other examples, but I now realise that there are plenty of other examples in his life/conversation/actual actions of this "dissonance." His response particularly got to me, because I could have chosen to not tell him anything at all. He would have been confronted with the situation anyway, but because of the nature of the incident, there could potentially have been other people who spilled the beans and named him as someone tangentially involved and who was in possession of the information. And, if he'd come to me asking if I'd spilled the beans, I could have lied and said no. So considering I'd at least been honest, a response like that was particularly nasty and especially his manipulative attempts to make me feel like I was the big sinner.



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    He is an immature ass at this point. Flush him down the toilet like the turd he is.
    LOL



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    He impicity forgave you. Once you forgive someone, the incident is over, and is not to be brought up in their face again, especially 2 seconds after they have been forgiven. His score is FAIL.
    It somewhat makes me wonder if he wanted me to be there so that he could "put me in my place" by making me feel again like I was the big sinner. At least I fought back. Well, a little bit.



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    Again, dissonance. He has a "I can do no wrong attitude" apparently and is fucking with your head with all this "I don't know what I did wrong" bullshit. He's immature. He might be suave, but he's immature, and selfish too.
    Yeah. I wish I'd listened more to my best friend who also knows him a bit, knew I liked him and kept telling me how immature he was.


    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    Also, if he is an ESTP, he is emotionally retarded. I can say that without prejudice, as I am an ESTP, and I was emotionally retarded for many years, basically most of my adult life. Some of us are just "detached" and "aloof" without being hurtful, but others interpret our emotional flatness for being blunt. It seems this is his way, but he has a manipulative streak, and he obviously thnks he is hot shit, which makes him anything but. There is nothing like an ego to make an otherwise appealing person not appealing at all.
    He sure has got an ego but he is very slick and quite good at making it look like he doesn't have much of one...if you know what I mean. He also thinks he's "sensitive" (he even said something like that to me once...groooaaannn) or, again, is at least good at making it look like he is. But when the shit hits the fan, that's when you see people's true colours. By the way, if you used to be emotionally retarded, at least you have learned many lessons and put them into practice! Being emotionally clued-in may not be easy for an ESTP but people can learn and work on their weaknesses... Some choose not to.

    EDIT: I seriously think he is a narcissist, by the way. I have read up on these types of people recently, and he fits the profile far too well. Non-acceptance of responsibility, an "I can do no wrong" attitude, putting other people down to make himself feel better about himself...etc etc...I should be grateful that he was never interested enough in me to do anything about it (besides lots of mixed messages). At the very least, he would have got bored and dumped me and I would have been broken hearted. At worst, I could visualize it turning into some sort of abusive relationship.


    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    His agenda is: Me, me, me, me, me!

    You are not the smaller person for feeling irritated that he is off gallavanting about on his travels after leaving you hurt. You are hurt, you made all efforts necessary that a normal, good person would have to obtain closure about this simple and unfortunate occurrence of bad communication and simple acts of bad judgement between you and him.

    When I've tried to make my peace with people and it has not been possible I used to get really pissed about it. Now I chalk it up to their lack of character. Unfortunately, it seems you are internalizing it. I ask you to let it go. I ask you to forgive yourself, and to release your grip on this baggage, and move forward. You did everything you can, girl. You exercised due diligence. You did no wrong.

    Thanks Yeah, I know what you mean about needing to let go and realizing that now it's on the other person. Someone once mentioned elsewhere on this forum that to a certain extent, this requires humility. I know that I have pretty good interpersonal skills and I know that generally people like me. And I have quite a lot of practice (even through the jobs I've done) at defusing angry people. But as you say, ultimately it's his "lack of character." I should not think that I am capable of always fixing such situations through my great people skills. I screwed up, yes, but I acknowledged it and did my best to repair the situation. He was not man enough to do the same. I accepted responsibility for my actions and mistakes, but I should not have to accept responsibility for his!



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    You are his friend so long as you interact with him on terms that are convenient for him. Got it? He is a manipulator and a punk.

    Yes, 100%. You know, one of the things that was so interesting about your response was actually how much it resembled responses I got from other friends. Don't worry, no more gossip was involved but there were a couple of people who actually knew the entire story because they were in some way involved, who I discussed it and his reaction with, and I also discussed it in more general terms with a couple of friends who didn't know any of the people involved. Everyone made very similar comments to yours. Except your language may have been slightly harsher But one common theme was, he has used my friendship where it's been convenient for him, it's one-sided, it's manipulative, he wants it on his terms alone.



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    Let it go. Learn from the experience. Don't release confidential information even if it was delivered by accident. If someone comes gossiping to you, let it end at your ears, do not relay it. People get fired for that, and friendships are burned that way. I am not saying this to be harsh, I am telling you the truth.
    You're totally right and I did learn a lesson about this, among other things.


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    Forgive yourself, please. Recognize him for the imperfect, self centered person that he is. he might be alot of fun, he might be good looking even, but there is only room in that man's heart for himself. His interactions with others are shallow from what I know of him.

    Absolutely. Part of me is slightly bitter because at this point he seems to lead a charmed life. He charms people into helping him out and doing things for him, he makes new "friends" so easily, etc etc. He collects admiring female friends, and HE chooses when he wants to flirt with them, when he wants to get something from them, or when he wants to be merely distant and polite with them.

    But honestly...it WILL catch up with him sooner or later and it may have done so already. It's so clear that he looks at people almost purely in terms of what they can do for him, and not at all for what he can do for them. Just for example, a mutual friend mentioned to me the other day that he'd heard from Mr ESxP. I obviously wasn't going to go into the fact that I'd fallen out with Mr ESxP because I didn't want to spread that, or the reason, around. But I was surprised within myself because I wouldn't have expected him to bother contacting the mutual friend on his travels. Then, the mutual friend said that Mr ESxP had wanted some contacts/friends to crash with etc in the mutual friend's home country. Yeah...then it made a hell of a lot more sense.


    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post

    Outside of moving on, the best thing you can do is to change your patterns of behavior. Change the route you take t owork. Change what you do during your lunch hour. Change the folks you talk to, and get yourself into some new places to do new things. Hell, register for a class at a local college, even if its not for credit. Guess waht? You'll be changing your routine, you'll be keeping your mind busy, you'll be talking with new people, oh my...what's that...is it...Mr. Right? So this is where he's been hiding out...
    I've made some plans for a change of scene/meet some new people already, which will go into effect in a few weeks. Looking forward to it, whether or not I meet Mr Right, though that would be a nice bonus



    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    (1) Make your final attempt at closure with him if YOU need to. Don't do it for him, do it if YOU need to. But don't have any expectations as to how he should handle it, or if you will hear back from him.

    I doubt I will. Although I am still hurting a bit right now, and I know that could still last a while, I am also moving on, and should view the fact that I might never see him again (or at least not for a long time) as a blessing in that regard. Contacting him about the matter would most likely just give him another opening to hurt me again. I'm too vulnerable in that regard and need to protect myself.


    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    (2) IMO, keeping your "friendship" alive with him is a bad idea. It's a one-sided friendship, that's whi I put it in quotes, its a friendship that is convenient for him, and hurtful to you. I am not friends with people that make me feel bad when I have done no wrong. No one is allowed to treat me that way. Do you see the utility in that?

    Yeah, a hard lesson to learn, because when someone I've cared about so much lets me down so much, it's like I have to rearrange my whole worldview. But I have survived somewhat similar situations before and will again, hopefully with more lessons learned.


    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    (1) I think you are a sweetheart.

    (2) I think he is an asshole.

    (3) I think you need to listen to Nancy Sinatra's "These Boots are Made for Walking", and imagine his skull underneath your nice new pair of black high heeled Italian boots.

    YouTube - NANCY SINATRA - THESE BOOTS ARE MADE FOR WALKING (Estas Botas Son Para Caminar)

    Good luck!



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    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    I have to quote ye, so as to explain in reference to your different points.
    Perfect! Let's [FINALLY!] do it!


    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    So! On the points to remember about you, they may be applied to me as well. Essentially what I like to do for weight lifting is go in knowing what muscle groups I wish to work and pick from the many exercises I know to do so. I'm looking to expand my repertoire of exercises, but that's another matter. I watched others at the gym from the age I started (13) and tried out things as I found out what was effective and felt good.
    Your style and mine are very similar. It works, it's simple, it lets you focus on execution and not the minutiae of excessive details.

    We'll expand your exercise repertoire later...

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    Counting calories or planning to the hilt is indeed a surefire way for me to fail.
    This is where discipline and common sense prove their worth tenfold. If you know what is HEALTHY to eat, what is UNHEALTHY to eat, and build up a list of foods you can regularly prepare, eat, and enjoy without too much fuss, then I dare say 90% of your nutrition is taken care of, and factored INTO your routine AS YOUR ROUTINE.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    So! On your list, perhaps I should explain bullet-point style the way I eat.

    • I drink alcohol but once a month, avoid prepackaged and heavily processed foods, and haven't had candy (dark chocolate notwithstanding), soda or fried foods since I was... thirteen?
    • I don't eat white flour or sugary things unless I'm specifically having a dessert (which is rare)
    • What I eat primarily is fruit, vegetables, random grains (did ye know how good Quinoa can be? Mmm), and meat (Mooo. Cluck, cluck. *fish noise*) - more white than red meat, and fish. Sushi is Goddess Divine.
    • I had to actually add fat to my daily food because I naturally did not eat enough of it. So, occasional cheese, olive oil for cooking, and cream in tea.
    • I drink a lot of water, especially in the form of tea - green, herbal, and occasionally black.
    • Really the only vice I have is caffeine, and I cut back to one cup of black tea a day, so...
    • So the primary thing which dictates my weight is my activity level, which has dropped recently due to life. Hey, I just realized that!
    • I haven't weighed myself in ten years, and primarily go by how I look and what I fit into.
    Your diet sounds remarkable to me. Seriously.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    I mean as to what shape/body composition one's body is happiest at, fat-to-muscle-percentage wise. Women have a bit higher of fat naturally, but really the concept is the same. Does that make sense? I wish to know what level of lean body mass is best for what I want to do and what is feasible. Is this essentially something only I can figure out through experience? I know the sky is the limit for those dedicated, but I wish this to be part of my lifestyle, not a fitness routine I do just to lose fat.
    There are two things that I conisder in deciding the bolded above, and of course they are diametrically opposed to one and other:

    (1) PHYSIOLOGICALLY: Your body is dynamic, it will show you how happy it is according to your diet, exercise, and amount of rest over a given interval of time. It knows nothing else than to be at equilibrium, to form itself in accordance to what it is given to work with, your DNA is in charge of part of this, your habits (exercies, nutrition, and rest) are in charge of the rest.

    (2) PSYCHOLOGICALLY: How does your mind feel working with and observing your body in its current state of equilibrium? For many, including me, this is the greatest battle.

    Now let's add an interaction term. Let's assume you wish to change something about your physique as it exists according to your current mode of operation (which sounds damn solid to me, dude).

    (3) EFFORT to PRODUCE CHANGE: Identify the change you wish to make. What amount of effort is required (in terms of diet, exercise, and rest) to produce the change you wish to realize?

    (4) ASSESS the DIFFERENCE: Compare the change you want to the effort entailed in achieving it. Is it worth it? If yes, then adjust your routine accordingly. If no, then adjust your psychological perceptions accordingly. If you are doing everything right, but not happy with the end result, then one of the two must be changed...

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    I highlighted the ones I do not do in red.
    Got it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    I hate indoor cardio and wish to beat it with a stick. I am currently trying to find fun activities that happen to be cardio to do on a regular basis. Dancing or martial arts, in all likelihood. Hiking, as well.
    Cardio is all about intensity. I am big on interval training. I do weird shit. I max out in something, walk it off, change gears and do something else, and at the end of it all I am drenched in sweat, and the people around me are dry as a bione reading their magazines.

    If you can, do your cardio first, THEN do your weights immediately afterward, and keep that fat burning going on through your weight training. That is the way to be most efficient with your efforts...

    Also, in the winter, outdoor cardio is hard to come by as compared to the warmer months. This is where indoor work is good. Otherwise it blows, I agree.

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoom View Post
    I do need some more free weight exercises that work out multiple muscle groups, but a rep plan that does not involve the really high weight and extremely low reps - I tend to do full-body exercises, possibly because I started out that way and also because I like it. It feels weird to do just one area ("back" on day, "legs" another) per workout, and I stretch a lot and just like feeling warm all over. Is doing full body workout routines (lifting, cardio notwithstanding) three times a week a bad way to go about it?
    You prefer CIRCUIT TRAINING, aka working your full body in one session, and not isolating muscle groups on certain days.

    There is nothing wrong with that. Bodybuilders even do it, but they call it something different: "Pre-Contest Workout."

    I actually do circuit training at times: (1) When I am extremely busy, (2) When I am injured and trying to maintain/stay off atrophy but allow myself to heal, (3) When I have plateaued and need to take a little break, but wish to stay limber.

    Circuit training is great if you do it right. I can help you with a couple of great free-weight + dumbbell based circuit workouts. I basically have two I perform:

    (a) Bottom to Top (Start with the legs, then major muscle groups of the upper body, then minor muscle groups of the upper body), and

    (b) Top to Bottom (Start with the major muscle groups of the upper body, then minor muscle groups of the upper body, then the legs (quads, hamstrings, gluteas, calves).

    I'll write these up for you after my class tonight, I'm off to drive there now.

    Please let me know if the info above was helpful in answering your questions, sorry for the delay!

    Cheers!



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    DEALBREAKER.

    Dear HallaBalla.

    If you scroll down on a bit on this blog, you'll notice an article titled "Vajazzled". Why does this exist, and since it does anyways, you might as well check it out for yourself and laugh.

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    Now that's just disturbing!! Seems like little girls would find it fun to bedazzle their arms and faces... But down there?! D:

    I hope no dude ever asks me to do that. If he does, it's instantly over forEVER.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    DEALBREAKER.

    Dear HallaBalla.

    If you scroll down on a bit on this blog, you'll notice an article titled "Vajazzled". Why does this exist, and since it does anyways, you might as well check it out for yourself and laugh.

    - Kyuuei.
    AND...

    Quote Originally Posted by mcmartinez84 View Post
    Now that's just disturbing!! Seems like little girls would find it fun to bedazzle their arms and faces... But down there?! D:

    I hope no dude ever asks me to do that. If he does, it's instantly over forEVER.
    OK, I couldn't find an emoticaon that was half vomit, and half laughter, so here's the closest I can get:

    :yim_rolling_on_the_

    WTF?!?!?!



    I am so fooking shocked!

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    Dear Mr. Halla back dawg,
    How can I surprise sex an ExTP?
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    halla, how can i be more like you :P ?

    i'm going to read and analyze all your posts :P

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