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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    ^THIS!!! +1!
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    I wouldn't exactly call myself quiet and reserved.
    Halla phrased it very well, I need to evaluate the situation first and the amount of tine needed for that will vary.
    People have told me that I have a very strong personality after seeing me two times.
    Other have said that I seem shy after the same amount of time.

    Eventually, most of them get to the conclusion that I am not shy at all, that is, if I they are given the chance to meet me more than twice.
    However, I can be quite withdrawn and cold with people I don't like, regardless of how much time I spend with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by une_autre View Post
    Eventually, most of them get to the conclusion that I am not shy at all, that is, if I they are given the chance to meet me more than twice.
    Exactly. Part of being a good socializer is knowing when to jump into a conversation. If I let the totality of my personality out at once, it would most likely scare many away unecessarily. I don't hold back, as in filter myself, I would never, but I do know wait for the right time to become "active," and once that starts it never ends.

    Quote Originally Posted by une_autre View Post
    However, I can be quite withdrawn and cold with people I don't like, regardless of how much time I spend with them.
    Very nicely put! Oh my. I am SO guilty of this one. I do not fake liking people that I dislike well at all, so I've never done it. The most humane thing for me to do around those I don't favor is to remain silent. If I do choose to speak it will most likely be impolite.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    I do not fake liking people that I dislike well at all, so I've never done it. The most humane thing for me to do around those I don't favor is to remain silent. If I do choose to speak it will most likely be impolite.
    Yes!

    When I decide that I don't like someone, I stop talking to them. Simple enough, doesn't cause further issues as long as I keep my snarky mouth shut.

    If I have a falling out and someone does wrong by me, I absolutely do not put up with it. I have zero tolerance for people who screw with me. I slam the relationship door in their face and they pretty much cease to exist to me. I can be in the same room with them and never so much as glance at them. Even when I look at them, I look through them. I'm told the feeling of stone cold ice bitch I radiate in these situations is chilling and my friends tell me they are SO VERY HAPPY that they are not on my bad side, lol.

    But then I love my friends ridiculously and shower them with attention and buy them random Just Because gifts and have snuggly cuddle piles with them.

    No wonder I confuse people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
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    ^THIS!!! +1!
    Cool. What I expected. I wondered if there was some mystery behind the cogs. It's a very controlled assesment from what Ive seen.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Benny View Post
    However, they are not usually very outgoing or friendly at all unless they have been drinking.
    Given that it's ESTPs we're talking about I'm assuming they're drunk all the time - which isn't totally out of character.
    Why do we always come here?

    I guess we'll never know.

    It's like a kind of torture,
    To have to watch this show.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    Yes!

    When I decide that I don't like someone, I stop talking to them. Simple enough, doesn't cause further issues as long as I keep my snarky mouth shut.

    If I have a falling out and someone does wrong by me, I absolutely do not put up with it. I have zero tolerance for people who screw with me. I slam the relationship door in their face and they pretty much cease to exist to me. I can be in the same room with them and never so much as glance at them. Even when I look at them, I look through them. I'm told the feeling of stone cold ice bitch I radiate in these situations is chilling and my friends tell me they are SO VERY HAPPY that they are not on my bad side, lol.

    But then I love my friends ridiculously and shower them with attention and buy them random Just Because gifts and have snuggly cuddle piles with them.

    No wonder I confuse people.
    Muhaaaa. The counseling term for shutting people out of your existence (even if they are right in front of you) is "STONEWALLING." It is not nice, but it works reeeeally well. Cease to exist is a great way to put it, I can turn people off the instant they prove worthy of being considered ilk by my standards.

    Quote Originally Posted by TickTock View Post
    Cool. What I expected. I wondered if there was some mystery behind the cogs. It's a very controlled assesment from what Ive seen.
    Yes, very controlled, very rational, and very consistent. We have nerves of steel and are thinking of 500 things to solve your reaction to what is currently coming out of our mouths 2 seconds before we say anything. We want one of three things generally: (1) The upper hand, (2) To do whatever it is we're doing and move on to something fun, or (3) To entertain everyone around us and start a party.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mort Belfry View Post
    Given that it's ESTPs we're talking about I'm assuming they're drunk all the time - which isn't totally out of character.
    WRONG, Sir. We are drunk MOST of the time. I rise each morning with a double of chilled Grey Goose, but quickly move on to crushing up about 4 Adderall and snorting them, then I have a cup of coffee (decaf., do you think I'm some kind of idiot?), and a sip or two of orange juice. Once the OJ hits my belly I then usually break out my gravity bong and take about 4-5 hits of chronic. On my way out the door while chugging down chilled water from my Brita I eat half a Xanax and 2 Vicodin with 2 Sudafed so my sinuses stay clear and open.

    Get it straight, Mort!

    Meanwhile the INTPs wake up and do a quick rectal douche with some Massengill, take 2 Midol, 3 Pamprin, and a couple of Valerian root capsules to take the edge off...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    Yes!

    When I decide that I don't like someone, I stop talking to them. Simple enough, doesn't cause further issues as long as I keep my snarky mouth shut.

    If I have a falling out and someone does wrong by me, I absolutely do not put up with it. I have zero tolerance for people who screw with me. I slam the relationship door in their face and they pretty much cease to exist to me. I can be in the same room with them and never so much as glance at them. Even when I look at them, I look through them. I'm told the feeling of stone cold ice bitch I radiate in these situations is chilling and my friends tell me they are SO VERY HAPPY that they are not on my bad side, lol.

    But then I love my friends ridiculously and shower them with attention and buy them random Just Because gifts and have snuggly cuddle piles with them.

    No wonder I confuse people.
    I had an experience of this sort very recently. After having to put up with some guys (one of them being the protagonist of a recent thread of mine) I ended up having my behaviour labeled as "strange", probably because I didn't fall for their crap. After a couple of disputes regarding this, which culminated with an utter lack of respect from their side, I turned my back on them and left them in the middle of the street, literally.
    Next time we had a conversation, I couldn't refrain myself from being a bitch and ignored them ever since.
    That's what happens if you get on my nerves.
    But most of the time, I'd rather save my neurons (I don't want to consume them on getting mad uselessly) and be about as communicative as a stone when it comes to people like that.

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    I have an ESTP friend that as very quite and reserved.
    He doesn't party at all. In fact my friends and I all decided that he has the least amount of party animal instinct of us all.

    He's just a nice, easy-going guy. But still an ESTP, maybe in ISFP, but probably an ESTP.
    You can call me Charles.

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    I've noticed this in ESTPs. Some of them are non-stop talkers, but some seem to have developed a suaveness where they know when to talk and when not to talk. Sometimes this seems to mean they don't talk much at all, but are still definitely extraverts.

    It's also so weird to see the odd contrast between how they nonchalantly deal with the constant circus that can sometimes surround an ESTP and then the quiet secluded moments where they hate even hearing their cell phone go off. You'd almost think they prefered to be alone, but then they're right back at it.

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