My fault. They seemed externally similar.
She sounds forthcoming enough. (EDIT) I think our situations are different but I would point out that I did have a similar "earnest moment" where she told me about how she acts like "a b****" to cover herself up and distance herself from others, but she really enjoys helping out her friends and being close to family.
Perhaps I'm making connections where there aren't any.
What do you mean by the last paragraph?