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    Quote Originally Posted by Clonester View Post
    It's a weird situation because it looks like we're dating and even others have asked if we're dating but we aren't. There's definitely a connection there, even if she's not really into dating the same way other girls are. I think I've found out the problem- ESTP's can you tell when someone fancies you? - PersonalityCafe

    She probably didn't even realize I was asking her out before. It probably didn't help that her English wasn't good when we first met (she's French). I now realize I just need to be very direct and ask her straight up. I like her now just as much as the day we met a year ago. I've had other girls come and go in my life, but none like her.
    Reading your post, I had two different reactions. Yes, being straightforward is really important. If you want something you had better communicate it. However, my visual (albeit exaggerated) of someone asking me “straight up” if I liked them gave me a knee jerk reaction to run to the hills for freedom. I may be alone, but verbally committing to feelings makes me a bit squeamish… less talk more do please. I tend to believe that ESTP conversation style is charming and savvy, keep it light and fun and you’d do well to be more straight up with your actions. Make it clear that you’re pursuing her romantically...Do it. Go in for the kiss.

    I think a consistent trait among ESTPs is that we can get along with pretty much anyone…that being said it's possible that she just sees you as a friend. On the other hand, it’s equally possible that she has just been waiting for you to step up your game. Personally, that thread you linked didn’t hold true for me, I am pretty aware of how people feel about me, and more importantly how I feel about them. I have a lot of friendships with guys that could probably evolve, but I keep them platonic to keep life from getting complicated… I’m present-oriented and I notice that although there are numerous possibilities, often the most appealing thing is what is most effective at getting my attention. So if this girl is what you want, make it clear you intend to sweep her off her feet

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    Thanks first of all. I appreciate the suggestions.
    Quote Originally Posted by Pillows View Post
    However, my visual (albeit exaggerated) of someone asking me “straight up” if I liked them gave me a knee jerk reaction to run to the hills for freedom.
    I wasn't planning on asking her if she liked me. I know she does to some varying degree (see below). It would be to ask her straight up if she wants to go on a date, and make it CLEAR it IS a date.

    That being said it's possible that she just sees you as a friend. On the other hand, it’s equally possible that she has just been waiting for you to step up your game.... I have a lot of friendships with guys that could probably evolve, but I keep them platonic to keep life from getting complicated…
    I've never gotten "just friends" vibes from her. But it could definitely be a friendship that she doesn't want to evolve for whatever reason, or to keep her life from getting complicated like you said. Either way I want to know for sure. I DO need to step it up, which is why I'm asking her out. So I have the opportunity to step it up. Does all this make sense?
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    My sister-in-law is an ESTP. I spent christmas day with her and her husband an ESFJ. They seem to complement each other pretty well, but he says he does all the housework and says she is pretty mean due to her very sarcastic sense of humor. However I think he complains in a sort of playful way as they dated for a really long time and seem very happy together.

    Biology got em though-they have an ESTJ 7 year old.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happy Puppy View Post
    My sister-in-law is an ESTP. I spent christmas day with her and her husband an ESFJ. They seem to complement each other pretty well, but he says he does all the housework and says she is pretty mean due to her very sarcastic sense of humor. However I think he complains in a sort of playful way as they dated for a really long time and seem very happy together.

    Biology got em though-they have an ESTJ 7 year old.
    Mother of God! ESTP + ESFJ + ESTJ under the same roof as a family?!?!!? :horor:



    They are going to have ALOT of fun during the teenage years!

    Lots of strong personalities under one roof is never boring.
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    My husband (ESFJ) hates my sarcastic sense of humor! I tell him,this is how I am! And he is the one complaining about me not being real!:steam:
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    Quote Originally Posted by lookingglassworld View Post
    My husband (ESFJ) hates my sarcastic sense of humor! I tell him,this is how I am! And he is the one complaining about me not being real!:steam:
    Sounds like it's time to open up a can...



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    Jes! as Halla says! Show him some wruv!


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    That would look real cute!! I'm 4"11",he's 6"6"!!! Of course,I'm a little steamroller when I want to be!! lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by sLiPpY View Post
    Jes! as Halla says! Show him some wruv!

    BWWAAHHH!!!! :yim_rolling_on_the_

    Quote Originally Posted by lookingglassworld View Post
    That would look real cute!! I'm 4"11",he's 6"6"!!! Of course,I'm a little steamroller when I want to be!! lol
    There's a reason God created you at the height of 4'11." If you were 5'6" you would need a man that was 7'3", and those are actually not easy to find.
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    Thank God,he loves me little and feisty!! (Excellent wrestling matches)
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