He doesn't "use" me. I don't know if that's an ISTP thing, but if it is, I think it's one of the most important traits to find in a mate.
I switch activities at the drop of a hat for people I care about. I feel like I get taken advantage of sometimes by people because of that.
I like to think that I don't use people. Ever. It seems like such a horrible thing to be "friends" with someone just to get something out of them. Instead of pretending to be friends, I'm more likely to just ask for what I want.
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I've been married to my opposite for quite some time. I don't think he's all that scary....weird yes, scary no. I imagine he would say the same thing though.
"At points of clarity, I realize that my life on earth is meaningless, and that I am merely a pawn in a bigger game. A game I cannot possibly understand or have control of. Thankfully, before depression sets in, I drift back into my cloudy, bewildered daily routine." **Joel Patrick Warneke**
Since I'm late to the party here, I thought I'd resurrect this thread by saying what I like about ISTPs.
My best friend -- we went EVERYWHERE together. We hot-rodded his Camaro. I helped him install line-locks, and rebuilt his transmission. He really helped me feel competent and relaxed. To this day, he's still the only person I ever met who never treated me like I was "too much" or a burden. He just let me be myself.
Another guy I knew in school -- he was my partner for a lot of my diesel projects. The two of us were always accidentally setting things on fire. He drove his JEEP over everything. He was totally insane and hilarious, and helped me fill a guy's truck up with pine cones because the dude was picking on me. Jase was flat-out. lol
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The ISTP's I know from school are fun to be around. They are sarcastic, practical, good with their hands, and non-critical to others. It seems to me that they are the least critical T's out there. We work well on labs together. It seems that my freakish detailed oriented self goes well with the crafty and mechanical ISTP. What I can't do, he can, and what he doesn't want to do, I do. Nice balance.
They are intense, intense people, underneath the calm surface of rationality, they are fire underneath and have an (often) unexpressed creative side that needs to be lashed out.
They are loyal folk- who will stand by your side, even if you are 100% wrong. They remind me of the EM Forster line: "If I had to choose between duty to my country and my friends, then may God help me to choose my friends!"
I can't think of a single ISTP I've met that I didn't like. They are team-players, they are intelligent and they are interminably exciting to be around- due to their enigmatic nature and ability to analyze random objects and buildings that you prolly didn't even notice.