i met an ISTP through a friend. they worked together at a title (real estate) place and we used to chat over AIM and make fun of our mutual friend haha. we'd been chatting online for about 3-4 yrs. i started liking him on and off (the more consecutively i talk to him) because he's funny, smart and cuz i admire him. anyway, he's majoring in psychology at uni, working full time, is a drummer in 6 thrash/grindcore type bands, has practices, recordings and tours and has to do homework. i think it's admirable that his life's so active, not sure how he keeps it all going. i finally met up w/him a few wks ago and it was cool. we just watched a few funny shows on dvd and the big lebowski. i think i've reached a point where i'm kinda in as a good friend, but i'd like to be and even closer friend so we can end up hanging out more often (when he has time) and possible date damnit lol 3-4 yrs is a long time for me to have idealized him, being an NF and all and i just want to get to know him in person now and either get closer or move on, but still keep him as a friend. any tips?! i'd gladly appreciate them!
ps: things we have in common, we're both musicians, though i'm not nearly as active as he is in any type of music scene. i play guitar, write my own music/lyrics and mainly have done open mics...haven't found ppl who i see eye to eye on music or connected with. i think we can both appreciate art and practicality/common sense. he knows a lot about me and my past w/guys seeing that he was the person i'd go to for advice on guys, not sure that's a good or bad thing ha. he's managed to open up to me and tell me some personal things about him, though i know i've spilled more info than he has.