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    Quote Originally Posted by Trepidation View Post
    I cannot speak for all SPs, but you'd have to be very, very close to me for me to feel comfortable with sharing anything... personal. If you don't think anything bad will come of it, you could always ask the individuals in question why they decide to vent to you.
    Well, it's certainly not something I consider a "problem" - generally I would consider it more of a compliment actually, so I'm unlikely to confront anyone about it. I have been told by various people of various types that I'm easy to get along with and good to talk to... The only times when I may have considered it an "issue" in a way is if it's with a guy who I'm attracted to and I have noticed a bit of a pattern of them venting/sharing with me and perhaps not with others. This has happened with a couple of guy SPs I can think of, and then the temptation to read into things becomes great indeed...
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    Well, it's certainly not something I consider a "problem" - generally I would consider it more of a compliment actually, so I'm unlikely to confront anyone about it. I have been told by various people of various types that I'm easy to get along with and good to talk to... The only times when I may have considered it an "issue" in a way is if it's with a guy who I'm attracted to and I have noticed a bit of a pattern of them venting/sharing with me and perhaps not with others. This has happened with a couple of guy SPs I can think of, and then the temptation to read into things becomes great indeed...
    I didn't mean to say that you should confront them, but instead to ask them directly because they'll give you a better answer than a bunch of strangers on the internet ever could. If they're already comfortable talking to you about the things that they do, I doubt they'd mind sharing a bit more.

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    Everybody who shows vulnerability is feels a high level of comfort around you, no matter what type they are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trepidation View Post
    I didn't mean to say that you should confront them, but instead to ask them directly because they'll give you a better answer than a bunch of strangers on the internet ever could. If they're already comfortable talking to you about the things that they do, I doubt they'd mind sharing a bit more.
    Yeah true, "confront" is a bit of a hostile word... perhaps we are all seeking a bit too much help from a bunch of strangers on the internet...
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    If an SP is vulnerable with you - ie. tells you they’re feeling low, and why, tells you when something really moved them emotionally, and this sort of thing – does it indicate that they feel a really high level of comfort with you, and really trust and like you (as I would assume it would with many other types?)
    This is generally how it works for mankind, yes.

    Don't over analyze, SPs hate that. Unless it's obvious that we're joking, we mean what we say, and we try to communicate in the most clear ways possible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post

    Don't over analyze, SPs hate that. Unless it's obvious that we're joking, we mean what we say, and we try to communicate in the most clear ways possible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    Thanks guys, interesting comments. You can vomit on me emotionally any time. Unless you’re doing it in a creepy personal-space-invading way, us INFJs LOVE to be vomited on emotionally!


    For example, and I’ve had pretty much this sort of thing happen to me with a few definitely SP individuals: You’re at a party and your good SP friend is there. It’s a fairly chilled party and you chat with various people…for a good length of time with your SP friend, sometimes just the two of you, other times joined by others. Everyone including (and maybe especially) the SP is pretty upbeat. Then you leave the party with the SP and chat some more on your way home or maybe go for a drink, just the two of you. It’s at this point that the SP starts telling you about their anxiety over some future plans, the fact that their boss is driving them nuts, or even (shock horror) that they don’t feel like they fit in particularly well with a lot of people in your mutual circle of friends/acquaintances. (The latter has really astonished me with a few people. These are the SP charmers who seem capable of making everyone love them…and then they tell you they only really have a few friends or feel like they’re not accepted…That’s INFJ talk, people! )
    I would say this SP considers you a true friend. Point blank.

    I can disclose past secrets and things pretty easily if I trust the person or like them and it makes sense in the conversation to do so. (For some reason, people tend to put more emphasis on divulging their past as more of a "wow" factor. I don't. The past is done with so it doesn't matter who knows) Even so, sharing these things goes back to what Halla said about being more comfortable with myself than confiding in the other person.

    However, I rarely discuss current or future worries - with anyone! That's like, my kryptonite. I would feel extremely vulnerable doing that. So if this SP is doing so I'd say they're either really stressed out or they really trust you or a combination of both. Either way, it's a good thing. Not a bad one.

    Of course, in these cases I have very little idea if the SP has similar conversations one-on-one with other friends or I’m privileged (I really mean that!) with the emotional vomit I mean, it’s not like INFJs ever read too much into anything…
    My core friends know everything about me. I have maybe four people in my life that I tell or can tell anything too. Other than that there's a lot of periphery friends. They are good friends. They may get those "emotional vomiting" moments out of me or they might not know much about me at all. A lot of how much an SP divulges has to do with timing. This was actually a really difficult post to reply too. Made me think. Ugh. Hope I made sense

    EDIT: what type is this SP?
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    I'ld like to respect the vulnerable points of an SP, but I most of the times dont see them. Best example is my istp Dad, he says things that do hurt me and if I tell him he says I shouldnt be such a pussy. And then I say things I hurt him with and I say dont be such a pussy.

    It's just different, not on purpose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quinlan View Post
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