Wow. Fuck cuddling without getting anything else. Do guys actually do this without wanting to sleep with her or is it just a getting the best you can arrangement?
When I did this, it was because I wanted to sleep with her but didn't want to ruin the friendship (she felt the same). So it was an awful halfway zone that eventually led to hooking up and the friendship ending.
The only thing is that once you're in a situation where you can cuddle (the precedent has already been set), you're always going to rather cuddle than not cuddle if you're sleeping in the same room. It's torturous, but the short term usually trumps the long term anyways.
But yeah, I doubt it will ever be a stable relationship for anyone unless neither person is attracted to the other (but then the motivation for cuddling in the first place is greatly reduced).
Cuddling is essentially going through steps 1-8/12 in establishing a sexual relationship. I assume you could keep going through the steps with one person without going beyond step 8, but I think it would be hard for most men and women. Communication, in that case, is def important.
mmm actually my cuddling wants over power my sexual wants....and my sexual wants are high to begin with. So I DO want to cuddle, but I'm always thinking of he consequences of that, so I've never cuddled anyone. If I'm desperate, I cuddle my pillow.
As for being able to control those wants and/or needs I'm pretty good and shutting them off. I've done it plenty of times. If I know its not going to lead anywhere good, I shut down the want and back up. So its possible to control it and to be back to 'normal'
Originally Posted by MacGuffin
ayoitsStepho is becoming someone else. Actually her true self, a rite of passage.
Ladies an easy way to cuddle without expectation of more is to do it with your gay husband. In that respect, I am a polyandrist.
Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship. Interpersonal Communication Theories and Concepts Social Penetration Theory 1 Social Penetration Theory 2 Social Penetration Theory 3
Yeah I had a cuddle buddy once for a few months. We finally hooked up once and I got weirded out and withdrew from the friendship. Then she decided to hate me and tried to get all of our mutual friends to hate me, because supposedly, it was more my fault than hers.
:confused: How could you being weirded out and withdrawing be anyone else's fault?
Originally Posted by Ivy
Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.
I don't really have any female friends (The fairer sex is fairly frightened of me), and only 1 or 2 (Depends on what you count) male friends. Me not being homosexual, I would not like this, or like to do this.
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I'm interested in what you percieve me to be. Johari/Nohari