That's interesting. How so?I knew a female ISFP who was very different from this young man, so I still have a lot to learn.
Maybe -- or do you think it could be that he doesn't quite know his own preferences due to his upbringing? My other guy is INTP, but first tested as ESTP! When I made sure he was true to himself, he tested in every way INTP, as I already knew (but he didn't). Of course he was an easy one to tell, but if I didn't know him well I would have maybe gone with ESTP to begin with, albeit a mild case. I think 'mild cases' are to be questioned, anyway.But he says he falls just off the center on all the preferences. I just have to take his word for it, and it's probable that I had too narrow a view of what an ISFP is like.
I have to admit, INFPs have a charm all their own if that's the case. I get really frustrated with the boyfriend since he's so airy-headed and detached, but he's also really endearing.You are describing my INFP sister.
PS: Sorry about the migraine. Hope you have some meds.
Headache's under control--"that time of the month". Chocolate cures everything but the dyspepsia.
Hah! That's pretty much exactly what he said. He tried - and still tries - to analyze everything, but he's terrible at doing it efficiently. The way he explained it is he then becomes extremely focused on one thing at a time in order to make up for the loss. He fights with depression and depersonalization (just not a happy childhood, nothing too serious) and I think he might compensate for reduced intuition/connectedness with constant analysis and sensation.Do you think that male feeling types are more inclined to try to be sensate as an attempt to compensate for lack of a thinking preference? To fit in, I guess?
I have a similar problem with my boyfriend, who is seemingly an indecipherable INFJ/ISFJ sort of guy. His N/S is literally 50/50 and I can see characteristics of both types in him.
At first he tested as ESFJ. Not shockingly, I suppose, with other INFPs talking of them using a 'ESTJ business suit' to cope. Then he tested as ISFJ, then INFJ, but all very weakly. That was all a while ago. Now that he's honest with himself far more than he used to be, he's consistently INFP, and usually with very strong preferences.
I'm not necessarily sure it's because he's a guy, but I think that makes him more apt to be less knowledgeable about what goes on with himself, since guys have less 'communicative' brains, it seems. The same goes for the other guy I'm good friends with, the INTP. It's probably difficult to be a guy and have Ne; they tend to be more effeminate by nature, I think, according to our society, and that must have an impact at least subconsciously.
Oh, and one thing about the boyfriend: he understands things better with analogies and metaphors. It used to drive me nuts but I've learned that's how to communicate best with him. I'm not a very romantic person but he's totally lost in romantic ideals.
What's the applicable difference between you two? How do those two attributes present in day-to-day life?However, I'm way more abstract & he does take the practical approach in the relationship.
I'd say I'm more practical than my boyfriend. In fact I'm more practical than most people I know, but I'm still INFJ to the core, which is a bit confusing. The way I'd have to describe myself is 'practically abstract,' because I'm abstract with a goal in mind. I'm also perfectionistic as all livin' poop, most of the time.
I've seen that SPs really love history.Does he LOVE history and antiques?
That could reveal a greater tendency toward SJ.
Isn't that true of Ne and Ni, dominant or otherwise? I use my Ni best when I completely introvert, silently, or sleep. It gives me incredible insight that seems clairvoyant or telepathic (the latter seems almost indisputable), but the cost is having to leave external reality to achieve such strong results. That's an extreme, but it shows a correlation with me. Ne seems similar, but I can't tell; I can do it, but with effort, and it's confusing.As I talked to him I kept hearing Ni as well. but it was at the cost of his external focus.
I will promptly give myself 40 lashes, unless you say otherwise (to bump up the number of lashes, I mean).I severely resent this thread for bumping my blog!
Is he fairly future oriented?He's also really big on his past not affecting his future.