Why would people want to make you complex, though?
I don't know. But they do.
Steph was right about how when we say something we really mean it. There's no underlying meaning. It is what it is but it often goes over the heads of people.
Maybe it's because we don't have an overly enthusiastic manner that people don't get the earnestness of what we say. They think, "Well, she didn't make a big deal out of it. So I guess it didn't matter" WRONG.
Agreed. Rather, I feel like everyone makes assumptions about people in general, and tries and put those assumptions on us. For example, 99% of the time there is NO underlying meaning behind what I say (I'm sure other types can relate to this too). I can't tell you how many times I've said things like "Don't do that, please" or "No, I don't like that" or even "I -DO- like that".... and it goes one ear and out the other.
Because when I said "Hey, when you go to the bookstore, can you pick up these two books about Costa Rica that I read reviews for?" ... I -REALLY- meant "Can you get me these two different books about Costa Rica instead because they have more pictures and -you- think I'd like them better?"
Or worse: "No, I do not want a relationship" translates to: "Yes, I REALLY want a relationship, just keep pushing me for a really long time."
I can't agree more!!! Seriously, stop thinking so much about what I say!
Originally Posted by Heinel
Questions like that make us complex. Why did you ask that question?
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People who don't mind not having their phone calls returned usually like me just fine.
Boy that is me. Can't be bothered to answer my phone most of the time. Usually it is someone who wants something anyway. My mom wants to talk to me for an hour to bitch about how my brother raises his kids (different than her, therefore wrong). Other people call me because their computer is fucking up or they need advice on what video card to buy or they need help with their home theater. etc etc, get bent, all of you.
I think we are so simple that people make us complex. Or people tend to assume a lot about ISTP's. If they don't understand us they judge harshly without sorting the facts out. I don't know. I have encountered a lot of this. I think our actions can look inconsistent to an outsider but to us we are just going with what feels natural or right at the moment.
yepppppp.....people keep thinking I'm sad when I'm not smiling or tired...like...no I'm just there.... stop assuming shit.
Definitely. Has anyone ever told you to smile? And then get offended when you don't?
I'm not an ISTP but I hate when people tell me to smile. It often makes me want to punch them in the face. Instructing someone to smile when they don't feel like smiling is completely uncouth and I liken it to telling someone to dance for their tip.
"Sentiment without action is the ruin of the soul." - Edward Abbey