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    Hey everybody, new ISTP member here.
    It was my birthday recently and I was just wondering how other ISTPs feel about birthdays.

    I don't generally make a big deal about my birthday. On the day of my birthday I woke and saw that I got a texts from friends saying happy birthday and I remember thinking 'oh yeah it is my birthday'. My ENFP friend on the other hand, starts a count down when hers is a month away. She was more excited about mine than I was.
    I remembered feeling so conflicted the whole day. I was happy people sent birthday wishes but it I found it bothersome to have to reply back. I was happy when I got presents but I hated having to fake appreciation, not that I didnt appreciate the presents, but it feels fake to me to have make this big production when recieving presents. I felt like I should organize a party or something but who would come except my few close friends. Besides all the attention would be on me, which I know I'd would be uncomfortable with, but really I do want attention.
    I ended up inviting my close friends to a nightclub, typical of an ISTP, I put of deciding what to do until the day before, so some of my friends couldnt make it cause they already had plans. My other friend was mad at me cause I didnt invite her. I see her as just an acquaitance but apparently we are more than that. Another ISTP trait.
    So consequently Ive come to dread my birthday. I'm just glad when its over. How does the rest of yall feel about birthdays?

    (dont even get me started on Christmas, cause I dread that to)

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    As long as the people I am closest to wish me a happy birthday I am good to go. Nothing else is really needed. I do enjoy a cake though, I will never pass up food. If you forget and tell me later its all good, my memory sucks so I dont expect any one elses to be any better. I dread the phone calls because people call you who you really have nothing to talk about and its just awkward after the initial happy birthday.

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    the ISTPs i know seem to just want others to simply remember their birthday- to wish them a happy birthday, and that's it. that means enough to them.

    they definitely don't seem the type to expect a huge party. small gatherings with close friends, if sincere and simple, are ok. though i think they tend to shy away from birthday festivities in general, maybe because they prefer to be seen as no-frills people that aren't made to fuss over. big publicised parties can be awkward for them, especially if they feel on the spot. they want on the down low type stuff.

    i like ISTPs.

    i do suspect they secretly want more attention than they'll readily seek most times, though. -sometimes you just have to give it anyway, knowing that they'll never quite own up to loving it

    (i know an older ISTP man that pretends not to care about this sort of thing, but i know for a fact he keeps the birthday cards we give him!)

    ISTPs - secret sentimentalists?
    (you guys will probably hate me for this post)

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    In the USA, once you're 35, age doesn't really matter again for 30 more years until you're eligble for retirement.

    I actually am surprised when people remember my birthday because I don't do the 'one week ahead' thing, I don't expect presents from people, and I in no way expect a birthday party. I haven't had one for years. I just don't care too much about age, the only thing that is important is the legal rights attached to age.

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    As a kid I used to look forward to my birthday (naturally) but recently it has been less and less of a production. My most recent birthday I didn't do much of anything, just relaxed and talked to my family and a few of my close friends.
    ...Then I ducked my head and the lights went out, and two guns blazed in the dark;
    And a woman screamed, and the lights went up, and two men lay stiff and stark...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Willfrey View Post
    As a kid I used to look forward to my birthday (naturally) but recently it has been less and less of a production. My most recent birthday I didn't do much of anything, just relaxed and talked to my family and a few of my close friends.
    i usually dont bother to do anything....... out of pure laziness unless I am particularly inspired that day.... and the Se-part of me tells me any day can be a "birthday"!!!
    Although like everyone else, the usual things happen, i.e. presents, going out...

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    My ISTP friend organized his 18th birthday celebration last minute [on the day]. As a result, very few people were able to come. I was his only non-family member there. I know that he appreciated it deep down, even if he didn't say anything.
    Everybody needs love.

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    I need alone time on my birthday, maybe some family. No parties...hate them.

    And presents are not required...I hate when people give me expensive gifts.

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    This thread made me laugh. It's like a silly thing that people can't comprehend sometimes about us. I have a love hate relationship with "attention." I think I want it, then when I get it, I get all flustered and uncomfortable and wish I could have just remained under the radar. So I don't really want it... or do I? And then I just shrug and say, "Eh... I'll just go with whatever." And yeah, Poki, phone calls are the worst. I always stare at my phone when some random acquaintance or distant relative calls for a few minutes (.... till the last ring *Ahem*) so I can have an internal battle over whether or not I should pick up. God. I wish I could pick and choose which people remembered my birthday. Cuz sure I want it to be remembered... but awkward conversations are taxing.

    I was actually in the E.R. on my birthday for appendicitis. Kinda sucked, I guess, but it was almost a blessing in disguise... haha.... The little comments I got on Facebook were perfect. Just write on my wall, and let me do a group "Thanks, everyone!" so I can be done with it. :P It was honestly just right (as weird as it sounds) cuz I was supposed to go see my boyfriend in NYC and instead he came to see me in the hospital. Minus the sappy part, I was glad to be around him, my sis, my mom (who also came to visit) and my closest friends. That's good enough for me
    I have an inner monologue that sounds strikingly similar to something off Animal Planet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by phthalocyanine View Post
    the ISTPs i know seem to just want others to simply remember their birthday- to wish them a happy birthday, and that's it. that means enough to them.

    they definitely don't seem the type to expect a huge party. small gatherings with close friends, if sincere and simple, are ok. though i think they tend to shy away from birthday festivities in general, maybe because they prefer to be seen as no-frills people that aren't made to fuss over. big publicised parties can be awkward for them, especially if they feel on the spot. they want on the down low type stuff.

    i like ISTPs.

    i do suspect they secretly want more attention than they'll readily seek most times, though. -sometimes you just have to give it anyway, knowing that they'll never quite own up to loving it

    (i know an older ISTP man that pretends not to care about this sort of thing, but i know for a fact he keeps the birthday cards we give him!)

    ISTPs - secret sentimentalists?
    (you guys will probably hate me for this post)
    Can't argue with this post.

    I'm also guilty of keeping b'day cards.

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