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    I've read in a few descriptions that ISFPs (and maybe other SPs) won't express their feelings, or don't like to, yet they get angry when they aren't getting what they want. Do you find this to be true?

    My girlfriend is like this- Like anything, in order for something to click, you can't expect to have to say something once and expect to move a mountain. She thinks by implying things (like "I want to see you" automatically means "I miss you") that she doesn't have to say anything more.

    I ask because as an ISTJ, feelings aren't first on my radar, and for best results, I expect for you to say what you mean.

    What gives?
    Help a brotha out.

    Thanks.

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    You expect her to say what she means but she expects you to pay attention and read between the lines. People who do that almost always use the same cues so if you pay attention long enough you can build a database of them all. Don't ask her whether you're right, just give her what you think she wants and see what happens.

    That's all I've got.

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    This sounds like directing vs informing communication styles.

    Perhaps this will help too:

    Understanding Berens' Interaction Styles
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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    You expect her to say what she means but she expects you to pay attention and read between the lines. People who do that almost always use the same cues so if you pay attention long enough you can build a database of them all. Don't ask her whether you're right, just give her what you think she wants and see what happens.
    That's all I've got.
    Yeah that's the part I don't want to deal with. You've heard what happens when you make assumptions? It makes one out of you and me!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by IZthe411 View Post
    Yeah that's the part I don't want to deal with. You've heard what happens when you make assumptions? It makes one out of you and me!!!!
    Sometimes. But if you pull it off you're the man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quinlan View Post
    This sounds like directing vs informing communication styles.

    Perhaps this will help too:

    Understanding Berens' Interaction Styles
    Thanks! I read up on these

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    Sometimes. But if you pull it off you're the man.

    Thanks for the positives man. We'll see what happens

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    The way I see it, "I want to see you." and "I miss you." are pretty much interchangable sentences. As for the sharing feelings thing, it is really hard. Or atleast it takes a long time. I guess I could say that I treat others kind of like children. As a kid gets older you give them more and more responsibility and if they screw up you take away privileges. If I get to know you and trust you, I'll let you into my world a bit, and if you respond well, it will continue on. If you don't, I'll draw back. It's a slow process. If you try to pick up on the little clues and respond to them she'll probably feel more comfortable and you'll be able to draw her out and get her to share her feelings and wants and whatnot more. Hope that helps/makes sense.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maxwell22290 View Post
    The way I see it, "I want to see you." and "I miss you." are pretty much interchangable sentences. As for the sharing feelings thing, it is really hard. Or atleast it takes a long time. I guess I could say that I treat others kind of like children. As a kid gets older you give them more and more responsibility and if they screw up you take away privileges. If I get to know you and trust you, I'll let you into my world a bit, and if you respond well, it will continue on. If you don't, I'll draw back. It's a slow process. If you try to pick up on the little clues and respond to them she'll probably feel more comfortable and you'll be able to draw her out and get her to share her feelings and wants and whatnot more. Hope that helps/makes sense.

    Thanks. Part of me hears what you are saying, the other part is saying, there's no way a person can function like this.

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    You find that much of a difference between "I want to see you" and "I miss you"? How can someone want to see you without missing you? I don't get it.
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