The problem is that my conscious awareness and attention is not focused on Fe, how I'm making other people feel. That's why it's an inferior function.
Fe is subconscious, I have to consciously divert attention from one area to another, go inside my head and introspect, to consider how I'm making other people feel. And even when I do, since it is an inferior function, I'm constantly second-guessing myself because I don't actually know how I'm making other people feel. Hell, most of the time I don't even know how I feel.
So my point is that I try, but things do tend to slip past. Another thing to consider is that my most conscious functions, Ti+Se, are always the most active. Ti doesn't make consideration to feelings. It's very black and white, very objective.
Example, when Steph was at Hooters, Ti+Se determined that she needed a sluttier shirt, and Ti+Se also noticed what her sister was wearing would work better for the situation, so Ti+Se said what it said because of that, not because it had the intention of implying that her sister was a slut for wearing it. Ti+Se likely wasn't even thinking about her sister. It was objectively thinking about the shirt she happened to be wearing.
Ti never has the intent of affecting the way someone feels, either positive or negative. It just does what it does.
So what I wish people would realize about me is that, most of the time, it is never my intention to affect the way someone else feels, I am simply just thinking. But if I ever do make an attempt, Fe will always be trying to make someone else feel better.
What I would also prefer to happen is that, if anyone is ever offended by anything I ever say, all they need to do is make me aware, and I will offer my sincerest apology, because that was never my intention in the first place, and ultimately I just want everyone to do want they want, say what they want, and to be happy.
I'm just a peace-loving hippie at heart. But my exterior and personality doesn't easily reflect that.