... and that completely goes with your being an ISTP- you guys need someone who is willing to put in some effort to get you.I am not the guy who would pursue a woman that seemed to show no interest in me, like averting her eyes when I looked at her, or just ignoring me completely, thinking that if I was truly interested I would be the one doing all the work.
Sorry that you've been let down and hurt. I can certainly understand why this would make you cautious. Were those women extroverts? I think it's sometimes easier to discern when introverts are interested in you compared with extroverts. Extroverts are so friendly to everyone in general that it can be difficult to tell if they are interested.But past the initial flirting, I do have a difficult time understanding how another person feels or what they want from me unless they are reasonably clear about it. The times that I have misinterpreted the way a woman felt about me, I've been let down and hurt.