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    Quote Originally Posted by Edge View Post
    could you please elaborate on the distant thing for me? would you purposley ignore or fein less interest in someone you had some kind of emotional investment in?

    ive had a couple isfps bashfully tell me they were attracted to my personality. what stage are you at then? is that easy for you to admit?

    the undermining emotions dont nessarily have to be romantic, becuase im not sure if the either of the two isfps im thinking of feel for me romantically. i think its an admiration and/or friendship thing.

    how do you guys deal with being looked over, which i often see happen, not because people don't like you but because they're too selfasbsorbed or distracted to see the quiet isfp?
    Hmmm... elaborate is something this ISFP doesn't do too well. I don't think I ignore someone I'm emotionally invested in. I would verbalize my affections more through emails or text messages than in person. I think I do things for those I like or love .. offer advice .. listen to their problems .. give tokens of my affections. I know that when I was younger I was very shy and did fein interest but I got more assertive as I got older.

    I'm attracted to the INTP personality as well. Something very comforting about your emotional stability and something endearing about the wit of an INTP that I don't see in other types. I will say that your intelligence is intimidating! Maybe that is why we are bashful?

    It sucks being looked over. I remember in my younger years feeling invisible, insignificant. It takes someone very patient and accepting to bring me out of my shell.

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    Another thing .. I was once told by an INTP that ISFPs are the "bottom of the barrel" for an INTP. I now stay away from INTPs because of that comment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie1962 View Post
    It sucks being looked over. I remember in my younger years feeling invisible, insignificant. It takes someone very patient and accepting to bring me out of my shell.
    although isfp's are more social than intps, that's something i think i can offer them in the social arena. the "bringing out" does not happen the traditional way, such as the way an extravert would bring out an introvert. its more like the intp blocks all the harshness that keeps the isfp in hiding. like offering shade or night time to the sun burnt isfp.

    Quote Originally Posted by Julie1962 View Post
    Another thing .. I was once told by an INTP that ISFPs are the "bottom of the barrel" for an INTP. I now stay away from INTPs because of that comment.
    i think they may have said that because out of all the types that are attractive to the intp, the _sfp understands them the least yet are among the easiest relations to get going.
    the two types attract but aren't particularly compatible underneith the surface. Fi and Ti do not understand each other but get along all the same. its up to personal preferance as well, i prefer isfp over alot of other types, definatley over all the other sensors.
    now that i think about it, i've mutally attracted all the isfps ive had the chance to get to know.

    bottom of the barrel for intps are SJs... if an intp even bothered to include SJs into the barrel... which they probably wouldn't as we hate wasted energy...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Edge View Post
    although isfp's are more social than intps, that's something i think i can offer them in the social arena. the "bringing out" does not happen the traditional way, such as the way an extravert would bring out an introvert. its more like the intp blocks all the harshness that keeps the isfp in hiding. like offering shade or night time to the sun burnt isfp.



    i think they may have said that because out of all the types that are attractive to the intp, the _sfp understands them the least yet are among the easiest relations to get going.
    the two types attract but aren't particularly compatible underneith the surface. Fi and Ti do not understand each other but get along all the same. its up to personal preferance as well, i prefer isfp over alot of other types, definatley over all the other sensors.
    now that i think about it, i've mutally attracted all the isfps ive had the chance to get to know.

    bottom of the barrel for intps are SJs... if an intp even bothered to include SJs into the barrel... which they probably wouldn't as we hate wasted energy...
    I like the shade for sun burnt ISFP analogy. I think it's their wise ass sense of humor that brings us out as well. I don't know about other ISFPs but being teased and taunted always worked for me. Sigh ... now I miss my INTP friends. It's been too long.

    I think I use to be attracted to them because they were gentle as well. I was very shy and didn't like to be dragged out of my shell and put in the spot light .. like so many of my extroverted friends would try to do. I was safe with an INTP.

    What would attract an INTP to an ISFP anyway?

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    Feeling inadequate and being people'd out make me withdrawn and sometimes moody, too.

    PMS makes me moodswings. I usually get really depressed/emotional/occasionally suicidal once a month... just before the red floodgates open. And if people are hurtful to me or bad things happen to me at that time, it makes it unbearable for some reason (idk chemical/hormonal imbalance??) and i become REALLY withdrawn and think about offing myself almost constantly for a few days to a week.
    This will hurt.

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    i have mood swings...its not fun. I dont like being so affected by what people tell me. My mom is very uncarring about alot of my emotions so i try to keep them in check. But my core wants to cry when I want to cry, smile when I'm happy, freak out when I find out that my dad got fired...but its not really ok. So I do have alot of mood swings and no one in my family understands me for that.
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    I've been thinking more about it, I realised I don't have mood swings as much as I sometimes have annoying people that make it necessary for me to swing my mood to deal with them.

    I do it on purpose.

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    Straight out of the mouth of my ISFP:

    "I don't really have extreme mood changes".

    There you go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie1962 View Post
    What would attract an INTP to an ISFP anyway?
    hmm, what do you think?

    kindness, you're not another freaking EJ all up in my face and asking twenty billion questions about my personal life, funny, non-judgemental, i love making you laugh, i know what it's like to be stepped over/forgotten/misunderstood so i want to help/protect you, we both just want to have fun and be silly adn create, you underacheive as much as i do so ive got someone to hang with in the back row, your capabilities of warmth and kindness shock me (in a good way), eh, i don't know... but i find the isfp hyper attractive, more so than NTJs who are other Ns. seriously, what's not to like? just don't laugh at the entp's jokes more than you do mine :steam: or the entp is gonna get it.

    hmmm,

    Ti Ne
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    the functions don't clash, they're like parallel lines.

    from what i've read on the forum, the intp/isfp relationship seems to be somewhat common.
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    What would attract an INTP to an ISFP anyway?
    On top of what Edge said - independence. I don't think I've ever felt like I was the needy one in the relationship, before. Which, in a way, is a good thing for me. I can't vouch for other INTPs, but I like it when I actually want the person, as opposed to the other way around. We both need a lot of space and privacy to do our own thing. Of course, the only problem is when one person wants some luvin' while the other person has still yet to reappear back on the face of the Earth.

    This is most likely an individual thing rather than a type thing, but my ISFP and I are both "actors" in love language. As in, rather than verbalising our feelings, we show them through actions. I don't think the words "I love you" have even been exchanged? But they've definitely been shown.

    There is a bit of a communication problem - the ISFP trying to keep up with my sporadic Ne-thinking - but I keep the pace slow and save the hypothetical nonsense for conversations with my ENTP friend.

    Plus, with her being a culinary arts major, she can rustle up a pretty good meal. Which is a bonus, because my culinary skills range from scrambled eggs to microwaving jacket potatoes.

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