i've had an on/off relationship with an istp for the past year,a few weeks back, st.patricks day actually, he told me that his cousins girlfriend tried it on with him, he said that she grabbed his c*^k and said f%*k me!but i bumped into her one night and said it to her and she said it was the other way round that it was him tried it on with her. i know what a mess he is with women(it took him about 4 years to ask me out,and it was me who had to ask him out in the end) but he has alot of anger and resentment towards his cousin so he did have a motive to make his cousins girlfriend think he was flirting with her. sorry if this is all confusing. she said he had been saying terrible things about his cousin to her and it all really did sound like him and what he would say.i confronted him about it and he was appalled that i would believe her over him. the truth is i didn't know what to think.
i went down to his house two days later and he somehow managed to convince me he was innocent,though there are still alot of things that don't add up,but i'd be here all day if i went into them and i still haven't come to my main point.
well he was totally disgusted with me for doubting him and said it was definately over between us,but that he thought we should go for coffee in a few days to have a proper break up talk once and for all cos he felt it wasn't over in his head yet.
of course two weeks past and still no break up talk,then two days ago i saw that my hash plants were gone from the room.not a single other thing was touched.the lamp was still there and the fan. nothing else was missing from the house and there wasn't a trace of soil or a hash leaf or anything,who ever did it knew what they were doing. i sometimes leave my back door unlocked and he would have known this. my sister and her boyfriend (who actually owned the plants) are convinced it was him.there was very few people knew about them. i don't know was he trying to get me back for the thing with his cousins girlfriend? he was forever giving out about the plants was he doing it to protect me from getting caught by the law? about a year ago a friend of his accused him of stealing $50 too, all these strange things are adding up.
i hate to think this way about him but the facts just point in his direction.
so what do other istp's think? and what way would u react if u were wrongly accused? i don't know if i should even confront him but i'd like to know what to look out for if i do to tell if he's lying to me.