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    what everyone else said. don't "try" to make him fall for you - he will or he won't, you can't change that.

    DO maintain a constant level of "showing interest" without oscillating between "hot" and "cold"...that gets confusing/irritating very quickly, at least for me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lecky View Post
    Is it even possible? Right when I feel like he's getting close he backs away...I give up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    DO maintain a constant level of "showing interest" without oscillating between "hot" and "cold"...that gets confusing/irritating very quickly, at least for me.
    Uh oh...I do that a lot, but it's just a reaction to when I think he is not interested and it turns out that he still is/was. I think it's too late...

    good to know though, thanks!

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    I'm not all that complicated. But then I'm slutty like that too.
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    It might *seem* unrelated, but I created this post in response to this thread.

    Stay tuned.

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    Moved post to relationship section so updated link.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    Have you tried just sleeping with him? That worked for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lookin4theBestNU View Post
    Have you tried just sleeping with him? That worked for me.

    Haha! I've been holding back on that b/c I thought that would be a turn off to sleep with him so soon. Trust me it's not because I don't want to...plus I will start expecting more from him if there's sex, we are not even in a relationship.

    ...but yeah I'm dying to damnit, he's just making it hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lookin4theBestNU View Post
    Have you tried just sleeping with him? That worked for me.
    Quote Originally Posted by lecky View Post
    Haha! I've been holding back on that b/c I thought that would be a turn off to sleep with him so soon. Trust me it's not because I don't want to...plus I will start expecting more from him if there's sex, we are not even in a relationship.

    ...but yeah I'm dying to damnit, he's just making it hard.
    For me, that would make you a sex partner. Nothing more, nothing less.

    It would keep me around for a bit, although no guarantee of falling for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lecky
    Trust me it's not because I don't want to...plus I will start expecting more from him if there's sex, we are not even in a relationship.

    ...but yeah I'm dying to damnit, he's just making it hard.
    I approached this very differently. If you think about it you may actually be the one making it too hard . I wasn't trying to get him to fall for me and so I didn't feel any pressure. I think there is great danger in expectations for both parties. They can be traps in themselves. ISTPs are pretty good at sensing traps especially those with nicely developed Ni. You could be showing more of your "hand" so to say then you know. Try taking it easy maybe and see if he makes any moves?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lookin4theBestNU View Post
    I approached this very differently. If you think about it you may actually be the one making it too hard . I wasn't trying to get him to fall for me and so I didn't feel any pressure. I think there is great danger in expectations for both parties. They can be traps in themselves. ISTPs are pretty good at sensing traps especially those with nicely developed Ni. You could be showing more of your "hand" so to say then you know. Try taking it easy maybe and see if he makes any moves?
    That's my current strategy, I'm not doing anything...I have a feeling it's just going to fizzle out. I just know that we will bump into each other again and that amazing chemistry will be there...

    I want to get him out of my head, I care way too much. It's not that I'm trying to "trap" him...I just like him and want to date, why is that so bad? I guess to him that's a "trap" (so f'd up in my opinion). The thing is I try so hard to play it cool with him that he's stated that I don't act like I like him, but come on...it's so friggin obvious.

    ...and yes I make everything more complicated than it should be, I'm a pro at that. I know we are not the best match but it is so hard to find that chemistry...I can't let go!

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