Ok my thoughts are in bold.
[QUOTE=pecan111;561468]FIrst of all I want to say that I was typed 27 years ago and I have known quite a few ISFP's in my life. I also have a brother that is one..These are the types of things I see in them.
1-They either tend to look all soft and all, but I call it "the Great Sadness"...this version seems to be so depressed and scared and have some form of anxiety that permeates their personalities Not me
2-The other version tends to be very deadpan( they may be less preferential towards "F", not sure), but they can be very funny, but can cause enormous pain with others. This sounds more like me and I often test as a T
Version 2 is the type I can't deal with anymore. Some of the reasons why follow.
-refuse to state their feelings and allow others to GUESS all the time. I do think some of them live in a world of FEAR that keeps them frozen all the time.
I agree that I don't share my true feelings to pretty much anyone, sometimes I suppose if share them they seem less real/meaningful, othertimes it just feels impossible to share.
-expect others to JUST KNOW how they feel and give it to them(think this is a trait of feelers in general)
I don't expect people to know or care how I feel
-are hurt when they dont' receive what they expect, but you will pay absolute hell getting it out of them
Not sure what this means?
-conflict avoidant to the MAX and extreme (have a great friend whose son REFUSED to even sit down and talk to him about some issues going on in the household)
Agree, not sure what to say about this, wouldn't want to start a fight over it...
-will put things and DOGS, especially, OVER people
Well who doesn't love dogs? but seriously I think a healthy individual will side with people
-will want a lot of weekend breaks , usually outdoors, BUT you must figure out that they supposedly want to spend time with you, BUT what I really think is that they want to experience nature AND not people
We can be largely unaware of how others feel and can feel like we're intruding if we ask, so that might be a reason for not saying "hey I'd really like you to come, do you want to come with me?" solitude can be nice but of course company is good for adventures
-(sorry, but its true a lot of the time)--LAZY!!!!, unmotivated
Well if something has a practical purpose, that makes sense to us we're as hardworking as anyone, don't like work for work's sake
-can't seem to understand that people will disappoint, BUT that they DISAPPOINT deeply
I don't expect much from others
-pay lipservice and will not follow thru- in other words, can be adroit liars and superficial people
-STILL waters DO NOT run deep
Harsh, depends on your definition of deep.
-good at being quiet, BUT NOT LISTENING...boy, this happens all the time
Guilty, one track minds I suppose
-want to be liked and loved but won't risk intimately alot of the time
-can be either good or LOUSy lovers
This doesn't tell me anything
-deadpan and boring-poker face to the max and you just can't get a feel for where they are at all
True, can take a loooong time to get to the bubbly goofball inside
-can be emotionally very dead once they give up, which you will likely never know because they won't tell you
-can be very selfish with their THINGS, but won't share themselves with others
Share myself? Icky.
-terrible at verbal communication
Thank goodness for writing (though we're generally not THAT great at that either
-i have known a few that were CHEATERS and very disloyal- others that were very loyal and were faithful
I'm very loyal and faithful
-have terrible attitudes about money...just either won't budget or won't compromise
Budgeting is boring, but I save well by being a tightarse (cheap).
-NEED kindness from others, but when you ask for somethign specific from them, they won't be kind in return
Disagree, I generally treat others how I'd like to be treated.
-can have serious issues with using others and lying
-won't fight for what is right or valued, will NOT stand up for family or anyone for that matter, but boy try and say no to their latest "toy" want
Our values may contradict traditional Fe values true.
-will refuse to apologize for hurts they caused, but boy, you sure are expected to bend for them
Not true, I think some of us over-apoligise
--sometimes strive for this inner ideal but won't care to do the work necessary to understand the monetary or social cost. they will decide this on a moment's notice sometimes and then expect you to foot the bill.
Need an example
-some are extremely insecure, but this is true with all types
-can make themselves sick because of the avoidance tendencies.
--and lastly, they can absolutely HATE someone, but they will remain invisible and without opinion bec. they want you to think they actually like you!, when they don't- after all, who hates the UN-opinioned?
I couldn't imagine truly hating someone, let alone wanting them to think I like them. I can be friendlier to someone I don't like much, than someone else might but that's just me not sinking to their level.