They are direct and tell you what they think with incomparable unobtrusiveness, they are easy-going, and have pure emotions underneath (Fi).
Some might call them shallow, but it probably isn't by far that simple
yea. The shallow thing is not necissarily true. It appears to be shallowness, but I think living for the moment is just the theme that we live by, and we know it. We are aware that we're living for the moment, and that it is the best way to live, and that in the end, nothing matters, and there is very little in life to be taken seriously. I've had a few conversations with other ESFPs about this. I don't think that's shallow, but in our times of "living for the moment" can just appear to be that way.
The Good: I like ESFPs a lot. They make great aquaintences and get me to do things that I wouldn't normally do (and still manage to have fun). Their living in the moment can be very refreshing. And I don't have to worry about not having something to talk about with them because they'll always have something to say.
The Bad: They can be shallow and shirk their responsibilities. If something's not in front of them they'll probably forget about it. I've also noticed that their feelings can be easily hurt and are prone to hurting themselves.
I'm a fan. They make me feel at ease and drag me into fun - extended periods of hanging out with them definitely brings out the ESFP shadow/makes me happy/destressed. I've found that dominant perceivers in general are easier for me to get along with.
Out of the few I know, I'll focus on the one I know best - a dear friend of mine.
- He is loved by EVERYBODY, and that's not too much of an exaggeration (has charisma enough to charm the most heartless of le bastards) but what is best - he cares about everybody, and his obvious popularity never seems to get to his head.
- Has a need to understand people - maybe not on the same level as I, his intuitive counterpart, but enough to be able to connect and understand their wants/needs
- Livens up any room
- Makes all feel wanted
- Is one of the sexiest mofos around (Very sensual and lovable plus SEE - CHARISMA, CHARISMA, CHARISMA!)
- But there is, of course even more to him that all of this
However - on the other side of the spectrum - I've known some ESFPs that have rubbed me the wrong way time and time again. Mostly girls I went to highschool with.
To be fair - I'd link this mainly to lack of maturity.