when caught in the rapids they grab onto me and pull me into their undertow of underachievment - although with innocent intentions.
i call this the esfp hug of doom.
i do apprecaite the gesture of closeness but my 'danger bad decision ahead' alarm is wailing at me.
But our Ps run off togther and have a ball, dancing on the queens throne and such...
My original thought from reading the profile was that they were shallow, ditzy creatures with limited ability to think, who partied, did crazy stuff all the time, and were completely ruled by their impulses. Then again, this was what I assumed about most ExxPs.
Meeting a few has caused me to reconsider. They can be oblivious, need stimulation, and do impulsive things, but it's not as extreme as I expected, and that's not all there is to them. They have more self-control than they appear to, and are not as out of control as I would be if I did such things. The impulsiveness has a range, in other words. They also seem to have a soft spot for people, and have a desire to keep situations comfortable and fun for everyone. They're also some of the few people who will actually make an effort at befriending someone like me who sits in the corner and seems disinterested in social interactions. Most people wouldn't try and would just leave me there to languish because I'm not willing to approach them first.
In other words, ESFPs look a lot better in person as individuals than they sound on paper as abstractions. Pretty much the opposite of how INTJs seem, I guess.
They're also some of the few people who will actually make an effort at befriending someone like me who sits in the corner and seems disinterested in social interactions. Most people wouldn't try and would just leave me there to languish because I'm not willing to approach them first.
Very true, and this is how I met my best friends--mostly extroverts.
speaking in general, i dont like them. the ones i know just gossip and talk about their stupid boy problems. they seem too outgoing and fake. they get emotional over the silliest things. i cant reason with them, ever so i just sit there thinking how dumb they are. haha
I think I have to agree here with Mitzy, at least with my experiences. It's a weird how an S can make all the difference in a wrong place...