That's kinda weird to me, cos see, I find my ESTP quite low maintenance, whilst every INFJ I've known has felt to me like impossibly high maintenance. That is, ones I've known personally - there are some I've only known online that I've had no issues with, but then I can't know whether or not I would if we knew each other IRL.
I've actually found that with my ESTP, I got him a bit wrong to start with. I thought whenever he appeared confrontational, he was spoiling for a fight. In fact, he could go either way any time, and just wants something true. He can tell, his Se is so acute, if you lie to him or whatever, it's like he has ESP (no pun intended lol), seems always far more accurate at summing up how I feel than any supposedly empathic NF ever has. So I've just learned not to bullshit him, and I really respect that - so many people seem to sort of
require you to bullshit them, you know? They don't want to hear the truth, even if they know it's a lie they'd rather you were diplomatic than direct, but not the ESTP. I find it refreshing, now I've learned that when he asks a question in a seemingly confrontational way, all I have to do is remain calm and give an honest answer, and he respects that and calms down almost magically. Knowing that now, it doesn't "scare" me or intimidate me any more when he gets bolshy, and I find it almost endearing sometimes, old hot-head Mike