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    Quote Originally Posted by Anja View Post
    I've never seen my husband "come on" to anyone.

    He just hangs out looking his very ISTJ self and women flirt with him.

    As a very rigidly principled human this works to his convenience. He doesn't have to compromise his standards.

    Example:

    At a party one night I came out of the bathroom and saw a pretty blonde sitting on his lap.

    When I'd tended to business - protecting my "property" - heh - I had a quiet word with him. Quiet but not unheated.


    His response? "Yeah, but I didn't do anything. She just came along and sat on my lap."

    The poor thing. . .

    Anja said, "Um. Let's talk about personal responsibility."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella View Post
    I don't think I flirt. I hate letting on that I like someone, I'd rather die.
    Is this your personal thing or

    Is this more for men or women or more universal. Also, would the alternative be to pretend that you don't? For example, if you liked someone, would you (you meaning any ISTJ that wants to answer) go out of your way to almost make that persone believe you are uninterested?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkIceTD View Post
    Is this your personal thing or

    Is this more for men or women or more universal. Also, would the alternative be to pretend that you don't? For example, if you liked someone, would you (you meaning any ISTJ that wants to answer) go out of your way to almost make that persone believe you are uninterested?
    It's tough even thinking about "how" I act. I don't like letting on that I like someone unless they've expressed interest first. I don't go out of my way to deny that I like them, if asked directly, but I don't offer that information otherwise.

    Another possibility is joking in a "crude" manner. I will occasionally make seemingly rude gestures in joke and see how they react, positively or negatively. I guess that's kind of an interest indicator. I dunno.

    For example (after a few beers; I'm not really interested in the person I said this to (thus the beer reference )): After receiving birthday punches/licks/whateveryouwanttocallthem from a girl at my party, she says, "Sorry I didn't get you anything" or something of the like. I respond with, "It's alright, you can make it up in blowjobs." She reacts negatively, but not irrationally, therefore I deduce she also has no interest. I guess the response I'd be looking for was closer to, "Yeaaahh...Suuure. *cough* Bullshit *cough*" LOL

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    Lol Arbiter! My guess is that it's only you

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArbiterDewey View Post
    It's tough even thinking about "how" I act. I don't like letting on that I like someone unless they've expressed interest first. I don't go out of my way to deny that I like them, if asked directly, but I don't offer that information otherwise.

    Another possibility is joking in a "crude" manner. I will occasionally make seemingly rude gestures in joke and see how they react, positively or negatively. I guess that's kind of an interest indicator. I dunno.

    For example (after a few beers; I'm not really interested in the person I said this to (thus the beer reference )): After receiving birthday punches/licks/whateveryouwanttocallthem from a girl at my party, she says, "Sorry I didn't get you anything" or something of the like. I respond with, "It's alright, you can make it up in blowjobs." She reacts negatively, but not irrationally, therefore I deduce she also has no interest. I guess the response I'd be looking for was closer to, "Yeaaahh...Suuure. *cough* Bullshit *cough*" LOL

    This may be only me.

    Thanks...however...

    LOL. Wooow. Yeah, no, even if i liked the guy I could in no way respond in a non-negative manner to that. I'd be offended.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkIceTD View Post
    ...if you liked someone, would you (you meaning any ISTJ that wants to answer) go out of your way to almost make that persone believe you are uninterested?
    No, not really. I would sure go out of my way to make others believe I'm not interested in her. But I have to balance that by not making it obvious that I'm covering up for the fact that I actually do like her. And that all results in clumsy, awkward, embarrassing situations. But when not in public, I would pay her more attention, and hope she notices. Like Recoleta said, my "flirting" is usually limited to humor--never physical.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cimarron View Post
    No, not really. I would sure go out of my way to make others believe I'm not interested in her. But I have to balance that by not making it obvious that I'm covering up for the fact that I actually do like her. And that all results in clumsy, awkward, embarrassing situations. But when not in public, I would pay her more attention, and hope she notices. Like Recoleta said, my "flirting" is usually limited to humor--never physical.
    So then when do you decide to become physical? After a relationship status of boyfriend/girlfriend is obtained?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tENnisFJ View Post
    So then when do you decide to become physical? After a relationship status of boyfriend/girlfriend is obtained?
    Yeah, not before that. I feel I would be going over the line and into her personal space if I weren't even sure she liked me also. But really, (from the little experience I have), even when I do know, I don't "flirt" physically very much. More affectionate, sure, more humor-flirting, but still not very physical.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tENnisFJ View Post
    So then when do you decide to become physical? After a relationship status of boyfriend/girlfriend is obtained?
    :pays rapt attention:

    Yes, I'd like to know as well.

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