It is really weird, because I said to my ISTJ all the time: Quit assuming I am like the other women in your life.
He kept assuming for along time. He finally seemed to get it and told me so.
I could be wrong, but do ISTJ's end up with ESFx a lot? It seems very common from what I can tell........and they always seem overstimulated by them. A clashing of sorts regarding emotion and being smothered.