Do you tend to keep at least a friendship with that person? Why, or why not?
Ohh, you're talking about this kind of stuff. I usually keep trying to hold on to the relationship... In bad cases this results in me being "clingy", and turns pretty pathetic. In good cases, though, it's ended in good friendships. One girl I asked out turned me down before I really knew her, but we stayed in touch and talked on the phone a lot, and came to be much closer--and not even in a romantic sense. Also, one girl I had gone out with for half a year dumped me, but she is still one of my closest friends.
As for reactions, I withdraw, not lash out (maybe the I vs E divide), and wallow around in my pity for a while. I guess during breakups, I might get a short temper for other unrelated things...but that might also be general. It's hard not to be in a bad mood when your relationship's falling apart.
These sound kind of over the edge, but I'm just thinking of the worst cases, mostly.
I usually beat a dead horse with it. I need closure, I need to know where I went wrong and what I could have done differently. It may be translated as clinginess and there may even be a hint of that involved but that's usually how it goes down. I don't like break ups.
A lot of that is that I don't jump in and out of relationships. They come seldom, so when it's gone, I'm left to dwell on it and it never completely leaves me.
Yeah, my relationships with people that go deep enough to actually become a romantic relationship are VERY few and far between. I don't date just to not be lonely, and I really don't do "casual dating." When I choose to be in a realtionship with someone it is something that I take very seriously and I view the other person as a potential marriage partner. That's why when breakups happen it hurts a lot, and also why I try so hard to keep that relationship (because I have invested so much of myself into it).
Eventually though, you have to keep some self-respect and once you realize that you can't make someone love you, you just have to let go even though that scar always remains.