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    Default ISFJ sister doesn't want wedding presents?

    My (ISFJ - tested) sister is getting married early next month. She has not created a wedding registry and claims to not want gifts. My parents are getting her and her fiance a microwave regardless.

    I am going to feel like a shit sister if I don't get her something. She is good at saying she doesn't want something but I wonder if that is just her way of minimizing her feelings/needs. Is this some kind of SJ tendency? But yeah, I don't know what to really get her, on account of the fact that their apartment is already furnished and all. Was thinking hand towels for their bathroom... lame I know...

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    something practical and thrifty? ime such things are generally appreciated... perhaps a little something indicative of one of her interests?
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    If she's a health conscious type of person, I'd get her a juicer or a nutri-bullet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SurrealisticSlumbers View Post
    My (ISFJ - tested) sister is getting married early next month. She has not created a wedding registry and claims to not want gifts. My parents are getting her and her fiance a microwave regardless.

    I am going to feel like a shit sister if I don't get her something. She is good at saying she doesn't want something but I wonder if that is just her way of minimizing her feelings/needs. Is this some kind of SJ tendency? But yeah, I don't know what to really get her, on account of the fact that their apartment is already furnished and all. Was thinking hand towels for their bathroom... lame I know...

    Any suggestions?
    Give them money, some gift cards to a favorite place to eat, maybe some nice sheets. That sounds lame but I got Egyptian cotton sheets when I got married and I love them more than any other gift I got. Except the money.
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    Money is the best gift you can give to a person. They just have the options to use it to buy whatever they want, it's great.
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    I love 100% cotton sheets. Or clothing... or anything. So comfy!
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    IMO bluntly say to her "I am getting something whether you like it nor not. I don't feel comfortable not doing so. Please tell me what sort of thing you want, if you decline I will be making my best guess.". This will make things clear, and if she truly doesn't want something she will make it known. This also opens up the chance to not only gain insight to what you could get her, but also remove any guilt you might experience for choosing something wrong.
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