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    Default SJs and sexual awakening

    SJs, if you don't mind sharing, what was your sexual awakening like? How did you become aware of your sexuality, and how did you come to accept it?
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    Oh, I was involved in a hardcore evangelical institution back then, and it was the sort of thing that was like everything is sin, even pop culture and shit. Needless to say, sexual desires were among those things that were pretty much demonised.

    ...Soooooo as soon as I had my sexual awakening, reason took over, and I said "fuck it" and ollied out of there.

    I've never had a problem with my sexuality. It's repressed because everyone seems to treat sexuality like some shameful thing, while flaunting it to unwilling strangers. I generally hate how society deals with this shit; either everything is sexualised, or it's demonised.
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    Typology Retiree Yamato Nadeshiko's Avatar
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    I'm ace

    I was also sexually assaulted

    The two aren't related because I was ace before that

    But now I'm really uncomfortable with most kinds of physical contact with other people

    I'd much rather snuggle than have sex

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    One time as a kid I was up past my bed time watching TV and I landed on Skin-e-max and felt something moving in my pants
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    Mind Wanderer Zeego's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yamato Nadeshiko View Post
    I'm ace

    I was also sexually assaulted

    The two aren't related because I was ace before that

    But now I'm really uncomfortable with most kinds of physical contact with other people

    I'd much rather snuggle than have sex

    I'm 22 now
    I'm so sorry you were assaulted. I admire your courage in sharing this information. How have you been coping since then?
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    I'm a virgin because I denied the situations that allowed me to drop my virginity before as I was religious. Now I want sex no longer being religious, but given how easy it is...(social dating apps, going to a bar, etc.) I'm still hesitant for giving it away even though it contradicts my desires.

    But my friends who gave themselves early, well it wasn't encouraging to know they had STD's.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    I'm a virgin because I denied the situations that allowed me to drop my virginity before as I was religious. Now I want sex no longer being religious, but given how easy it is...(social dating apps, going to a bar, etc.) I'm still hesitant for giving it away even though it contradicts my desires.

    But my friends who gave themselves early, well it wasn't encouraging to know they had STD's.
    I highly recommend following procedures for safe sex straight down to a T. With mouth on genitals, use either a condom or a dental dam, using gloves when fingering, and of course always using condoms, etc. There's always more stuff than HIV.

    Honestly I'm hesitant, too - the sex ed I got wasn't the best due to attending religious schools, and I suppose while the people I may have slept with weren't promiscuous (probably), it was also in a context where I knew them and there was some trust, but they were experienced and considering how asymptomatic some things can be, it's always the best to have safe sex.

    I'm honestly really bitter about the state of sex ed I had. Two of the girls I knew since childhood got pregnant during their teens due to it - they were in committed relationships.
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    will hold me like I’m hope. Our arms
    will bandage and we will press promises
    between us like flowers in a book.

    I will write a dictionary
    of all the words I have used trying
    to describe the way it feels to have finally,
    finally found you.

    -Clementine von Radics, Mouthful of Forevers
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zeego View Post
    I'm so sorry you were assaulted. I admire your courage in sharing this information. How have you been coping since then?
    Well it was when I was 14 or so, and then I repressed the memory until about a year ago. It was bad for a while but I'm doing way better now. I reached out and got therapy and stuff. Now that memory is the least of my problems
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    they do awaken? lol

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