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[SJ] SJs and sexual awakening

Zeego

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SJs, if you don't mind sharing, what was your sexual awakening like? How did you become aware of your sexuality, and how did you come to accept it?
 

Agent Washington

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Oh, I was involved in a hardcore evangelical institution back then, and it was the sort of thing that was like everything is sin, even pop culture and shit. Needless to say, sexual desires were among those things that were pretty much demonised.

...Soooooo as soon as I had my sexual awakening, reason took over, and I said "fuck it" and ollied out of there.:D

I've never had a problem with my sexuality. It's repressed because everyone seems to treat sexuality like some shameful thing, while flaunting it to unwilling strangers. I generally hate how society deals with this shit; either everything is sexualised, or it's demonised.
 

Yama

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I'm ace

I was also sexually assaulted

The two aren't related because I was ace before that

But now I'm really uncomfortable with most kinds of physical contact with other people

I'd much rather snuggle than have sex

I'm 22 now
 

Doctor Cringelord

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One time as a kid I was up past my bed time watching TV and I landed on Skin-e-max and felt something moving in my pants
 

Zeego

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I'm ace

I was also sexually assaulted

The two aren't related because I was ace before that

But now I'm really uncomfortable with most kinds of physical contact with other people

I'd much rather snuggle than have sex

I'm 22 now

I'm so sorry you were assaulted. I admire your courage in sharing this information. How have you been coping since then?
 

Forever

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I'm a virgin because I denied the situations that allowed me to drop my virginity before as I was religious. Now I want sex no longer being religious, but given how easy it is...(social dating apps, going to a bar, etc.) I'm still hesitant for giving it away even though it contradicts my desires.

But my friends who gave themselves early, well it wasn't encouraging to know they had STD's. :unsure:
 

Agent Washington

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I'm a virgin because I denied the situations that allowed me to drop my virginity before as I was religious. Now I want sex no longer being religious, but given how easy it is...(social dating apps, going to a bar, etc.) I'm still hesitant for giving it away even though it contradicts my desires.

But my friends who gave themselves early, well it wasn't encouraging to know they had STD's. :unsure:

I highly recommend following procedures for safe sex straight down to a T. With mouth on genitals, use either a condom or a dental dam, using gloves when fingering, and of course always using condoms, etc. There's always more stuff than HIV.

Honestly I'm hesitant, too - the sex ed I got wasn't the best due to attending religious schools, and I suppose while the people I may have slept with weren't promiscuous (probably), it was also in a context where I knew them and there was some trust, but they were experienced and considering how asymptomatic some things can be, it's always the best to have safe sex.

I'm honestly really bitter about the state of sex ed I had. Two of the girls I knew since childhood got pregnant during their teens due to it - they were in committed relationships.
 

Yama

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I'm so sorry you were assaulted. I admire your courage in sharing this information. How have you been coping since then?

Well it was when I was 14 or so, and then I repressed the memory until about a year ago. It was bad for a while but I'm doing way better now. I reached out and got therapy and stuff. Now that memory is the least of my problems
 

Red Memories

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I am on the asexual spectrum so...
I mean. I've desperately desired to cuddle with someone.
but someone tried to kiss me and I panicked.
welcome to Jazzy's worldddd
 
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